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Cancer · Looking for: Man, 52–62
I am not 53. I just realized meetville had my age wrong and I can't change it. I don't know that I have a "perfect match." There have been so few so called "perfect" (don't you hate parenthetical people?) people in my life that turned out to be anything but and so many admittedly imperfect people who actually came much closer. I'm comfortable in my own skin and in my own company so if that is all that there is ever going to be for me, so be it. But if there is more, I don’t want to miss it. I can state it best this way: I would like a man in my life but I don't NEED a man in my life and if you don't understand the difference, we're probably not a good fit. There are so many ways I could describe myself and what I want in a relationship but I’ve selected these few. I want someone who gets the emotional shorthand when we look at each other from across the room. You know, it’s that look--the one that runs from “oh crap, did YOU shut the garage door?” all the way to “I’m feeling frisky, are you with me?” He will understand that I have to be outside when it’s storming and he will hear the same profound silence you hear after a deep snowfall, you know, the silence that makes you whisper? He’ll have the Kleenex ready when I watch “Love, Actually” because he knows that, even though this is the umpteenth time I’ve seen this movie, I’m going to bawl anyway. He should be comfortable with bruises because even though I have never successfully pounded a nail just exactly the way I have wanted to, I didn’t, and most likely won’t ever, stop trying. I want someone who thinks they could be attracted to an intelligent woman who also happens to sing off key and out loud at stoplights and someone who finds it cute that, despite the aforementioned intelligence, I push on the dang door handle when it clearly says pull. He should be someone who, when times get rough, as they inevitably do, will stick it out with me if he says he will, because if I tell him that I will stick, I will. I want someone who recognizes my bravado when it’s false as well as my courage when it’s real, knows the difference but treats both the same. He should want to be my friend because I will be his and I‘m a good one. I won’’ll be there when it’s over and I promise I will look on in awe. I’m fun. I'm intelligent, irreverent, philosophical, witty, and yes, at times profane, but above all else, I’m kind. I love children. Children to me are proof that yes, there is a God. I cannot pass up a stray. I never lie unless it is to spare someone's feelings or to comfort someone who might be scared. I have been known to hug complete strangers and at the same time have been told I look like a snob. I appreciate all forms of education and intellect. I have an pretty good command of the English language but sometimes only a well placed four letter word will do. I would prefer a man who lives alongside me, not stuck to me. There are so many other things I could say but in my day to day life, I don't ever find myself having to sell myself so this isn't going to sound as if I am at ease with it. First meeting I would prefer a daytime meeting in a coffee house or something like that. First date date? Dinner in a romantic setting.
