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Cancer · Looking for: Man, 32–42
***UPDATE Sept 2012 - I appreciate the emails & chat requests &;no sh!t" level for some, but....if I reply back and you are only going to send short responses then things aren't going to go very far. I'm not going to want to continue talking very long if I am initiating all of the convo. When I get an email I try to ask questions to get to know you and if you send a short reply like "yes" or "I had a good weekend" or "I'm an engineer" then it feels like I'm having to work really hard for nothing! Feel free to elaborate or ask me something. A 1 sided convo doesn't go very far! Even if we are talking by text, email, or chat, it is still the same as if you are having a face to face convo. You say something, I say something... Otherwise you have the awkward silence.I am very blunt & honest & want the same. I know that everyone has flaws & baggage, including myself. And what 1 person considers baggage another may not. Just like what 1 person considers a good quality another may not have even thought about. A lot of people care about material things and looks but don't care about if a person has a plan for their retirement or if they have good credit. I think a retirement plan and good credit are very good qualities. Hell, if you have those last 2 things you can buy yourself looks & material things if that is what you want. lol I'm an adult, I realize that life sucks at times, people say things they don't mean, everyone gets on your nerves at some point, things are going to hurt, & everyone has bad days. I really don't get why people feel the need to lie. I understand most people are not accepting and are judgemental. But try me out. Give me a chance. I have heard it all, I'm sure whatever you have to tell, I've probably heard some variation of it. I won't necessarily give up on someone or end things for their past. But I will for lying!! I realize that you may not be proud of what it is, but if you lie to me about it then you are wasting both of our time. Besides, if you are really wanting it to work out I will find out eventually. Everyone has deal breakers, so spill your "bad stuff" upfront. Have enough respect to tell someone the truth, if nothing else, dump out your 'flaws' immediately so that if you are gonna get rejected, it happens right away and not after you have feelings for them. Why play games, we are adults.I would consider myself a very realistic person. I've been in long term relationships before, so I know that things don't stay in the "honeymoon" phase forever. I have never cheated & do not believe in it. I get told a lot that I am not like most people or most women. I don't get upset if someone drinks out of the milk carton or leaves the toliet seat up & I don't take hours to get ready. I like to do lots of things, but they aren't as fun to do alone. A fav of mine is live comedy. I love comedians and have a great sense of humor. I try to make everything I do fun and like to be silly and goofy when doing the boring and mundane things like running errands.I like where I am at in my life, I don't have any expectations and I'm happy with how things are. If I can add another great component to my life then I'm all for it. Good luck! I am pretty easy to please. If I were to plan the 1st date, I would pick something where we could get to know each other more (I know, more talking, lol). For me, I will be honest...I am impressed by a guy that has something planned out. To me that shows he thought about it, made some effort, or phone calls, arrangements, etc.
