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About Me

I was born and raised in a very small farm town in upstate NJ. Growing up I was that scabby kneed tom girl who's favorite things were to climb trees, ride bikes, play in the mud, play freeze tag, and catch fireflies! Disclaimer: Another words ~ since I could walk I've been an outside kinda girl. So, if your idea of a fun weekend is to sit on the couch all day and watch sports (or TV in general) don't bother messaging me...it's a waste of our time. I left that small town and joined the Marine Corps soon after high school. Very early in life I married a fellow Marine to whom I was with for 14 years and married to for 12 years. I have two extremely beautiful, talented, and well behaved girls who are now 15 and 11. Much of my free time is spent involving myself in their school activities, sports, and most importantly raising young ladies. In my spare time I like to work in the yard/garden, run, swim, cook, travel, read, camp, fish, shop, watch movies or relax with my two girls. I enjoy staying busy and making the most out of my life each and EVERY day. The truth is, I can have a good time doing just about anything! I am passionate about spending quality time with my family and friends. What I am looking for... A man who is up for anything; a spontaneous weekend trip or just relax in the pool and day drink on the patio. Someone who will look forward to coming home to me everyday...one day and in due time.A man who wants to be my best friend; share his dreams, failures, and successes with me. A man who works hard to play harder. A man who understands that disagreements / struggles are suppose to BUILD a relationship...not break it. A man who isn't trying to be a father to my children but an outstanding role model with great morals and values. I don't expect perfection, I do understand from my own life that adults / parents DO make mistakes. Ultimately, a man of integrity who wants a long term relationship and who can and wants to withstand the test of time together. What I'm NOT NOT NOT looking for... A hook up, booty call, one night stand (whatever they call it these days).A pen pal on meetville OR a texting buddyA couch potato.An addict (pills, alcohol, drugs). An ideal first date for me would be somewhere relaxing to just talk and get to know each other.

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Divorced

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    No

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Christian

  • Body type

    Average

  • Height

    5'3"

  • Eye color

    Brown

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

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  • Marisa

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    Woman. 38 years old. Zodiac sign: Gemini.

    Looking for: man. In age: 35-45

    Prerequisites: Christian•Not Married•Not Separated (that's still MARRIED!) No shirtless pics (looking for a modest man)• No drinking/drunk pics (looking for a man with class & a grown up)• I am a hopeless romantic that wants very much to believe in true love and soulmates despite the fact that I am now ***or 29 for the 9th time as my sister and I prefer to say) and still have not found it...or it hasn't found me, whichever is correct. I thought I had a few times but I was sadly mistaken. Maybe it's not even about "soulmates," but rather two people wanting the same things, attracted to each other mentally, emotionally, and physically, and here is the important part... committed to stand by each other through lifes twists and turns, heartaches, and growing pains. But, I know of a few couples my parents included that were true blue soulmates... so I still believe. I am an independent woman and mother but not so independent that I don't realize that I would be so much better with a life partner. I want him to be my best friend and lover. Unfortunately for me, most of the men I hear from must only read that word "lover," and the rest of my profile is a complete blurrrrrrrrrrr..... Because, it has been my experience that most of the men that have asked me out from here are looking to hook up and nothing else. I am a little too grown up for that. I am after all...a lady. And I still believe that there are some gentlemen out there in the sea of fishies. It is my passion to work with survivors of trauma and eventually get into social policy. I am also a mother of five, yes five amazingly beautiful and fantastic children. If you are still reading this then you obviously did not freak out at the number five so I will disclose a little more info about my entourage. I have four daughters ages 19, 13,11, and 3, and a son who is 17. I share custody of my son and the next two girls. ( I was in a relationship with the oldest fours' father for nearly 13 years; that ended in ***And, my youngest is from a different father, she is primarily with me (I was with her father for 5 years). I'm saying this up front because the question, "are all your children from the same father?" is really tacky and I'd rather just avoid it all together. This way if you ask...I'll know you didn't bother to read my profile. I will not tolerate any form of abuse or ownership in any of my future relationships...been there, done that and I do not care to repeat the cycle. Two people who care about each other should never purposely hurt each other whether it's with words or actions. I've been cheated on and I know how badly that hurts. I have never nor would I ever cheat on someone. I have never understood why people even bother to get into a relationship if they are still wanting to sleep around or date other people. Also, I am not into open relationships... so please do not ask me out if this is something you fantasize about or God help you...practice. I'm completely disgusted by it. Eventually after I am finished with school which will be spring of ***, I would like to keep my options open to either moving somewhere more beautiful with water and mountains preferably or settling into the country somewhere here in Oz. I am a country girl at heart and always will be. Then my mama (a single mom most of my life) moved us to the city... Both places are very much home to me. I have family in both Indy and Pa., but most are in Pa. I do miss it there. My daddy died when I was almost 4. He and my mama were soulmates... in fact she did not find love again until 3 years ago. I sincerely pray to God that I am not a senior citizen before I find my true love. I would like to find a man who takes the lead with our relationship. I do believe men and women are especially created to fill certain roles. I want a man who knows how to lead without controlling. I want and require a man who will adore me. I like a lot of attention and I'll let you know if I'm not getting enough or I'll simply lose interest. Any place that we can interact and get to know each other better is fine. Some things I like are nice restaurants, cafes, hole in the wall diners, Final Fridays, First Fridays, concerts, the zoos, museums, anything outdoors, extreme sports, movies (but not on the first couple dates), church, FLYING, and amusement parks.

  • Rosa

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    Woman. 36 years old. Zodiac sign: Aquarius.

    Looking for: man. In age: 33-43

    I am so not good at describing myself but I'll give it a try.... Im 35 years old,have a dog who is my baby...domt know how i wouldve gotten through the loss of my father,among other things without her. I enjoy the simple things in life,im not hard to please at all... I listen to pretty much all music except rap,jazz and heavy metal. Things have been rough for me the last few years and Im just trying to get back on track. The ideal first date would be meeting somewhere comfortable and familiar for dinner and maybe a drink or two,just talking and getting to know eachother.

  • Stella

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    Woman. 37 years old. Zodiac sign: Taurus.

    Looking for: man. In age: 34-44

    I'm tall, thin, and love to laugh! I can't wait to see what god has in store for me each day!I'm looking for someone to love deeply, laugh hard with, and spend the rest of my life with!I love country and R&B.I'm very passionate about my dog. He provides me with love, understanding, and support during the hard times. He just makes like enjoyable. I definitely want to find someone whom loves animals as much as I do!I'm hoping to obtain my Bachelor's degree soon!

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