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Ocie, 45
United States, New Mexico, Portales

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About Me

I'm looking for real connection, because I haven't experienced much of that. I want to understand you and take some responsibility for your happiness, and have you do the same. This doesn't mean we can't have some separate interests or time with other (same-sex) friends. I'm looking to include you as part of the necessary fabric of my life. To compliment, enrich and be at peace with each other. I value hugs and small thoughtful surprises. My dog is a border collie cross. I've had birds, fish and dogs in the past. I like cats, and sometimes house-sit two for a friend. My experience with children is limited as I am the youngest in my branch of the family. I think their honesty, openness and curiosity is refreshing, and that their energy level is exhausting. I tend to treat them like little people with inexperience and little emotional control who need consequences for their actions in order to learn and grow. This means positive reinforcement (praise and/or reward) for good decisions, and consequences (time out, loss of privilege or corrective action) for bad decisions. My parents made time for me which included things like games after dinner, and a vacation alone with my mom. Things I cherished, which I would try to carry forward.I am not interested in being "Friends with Benefits". If friendship develops that far, then you better be "all in". I believe that when you are that close to somebody you give a vulnerable piece of yourself away. If there is no commitment, then that piece is lost and crippling pain seeps into your life. This affects all relationships, and the ability to live life with maximum joy. If you disagree, then move on and do not contact me.Trust in God people, be honest and open with others, and especially to yourself (which can be difficult). I wish you all peace and happiness :) "Coffee" date (I drink tea) in public venue, with possibility of going for stroll afterwards.Movies OK, however there should be a coffee date afterwards to discuss the film and other topics...

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Divorced

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    Someday

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Christian

  • Body type

    Average

  • Height

    5'11"

  • Eye color

    Blue

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    No

INTERESTS

Christian Video Games Canadian Chinese Korean Cricket Ice Hockey Shooting Sports Tennis
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