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Jabari, 53
United States, New York, Fishkill

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About Me

I have this Theory about Divorce....After years of being in the Hospitality Industry and watching people behave in Public and especially (a little bit) older people, I have made some fairly decent observations. I think.I can't tell you how many men I have served who have told me about their pending divorce and out of habit I always ask the same question; "As head of your family, are you sure you have done everything to put your marriage back together?" I *** a "yes" from these men and my most favorite response is; "I am ashamed to tell you this but my wide and I have not had sex in over 2 years!" In some case I go further and ask a few more questions such as; "is your wife going through menopause or pre-menopause?" or "have you or your wife lost there Mom and Dad in the last couple of years?" Each one of these questions denotes a critical cause and effect psychological condition that could be responsible for the marital issues at hand....and can be handily treated and resolved in most cases. These are just 2 common things people our age go through during a marriage if we are in our 40's and on.There is a problem that has creeped into the divorce cycle that is commonly mis- Unfortunately over the counter supplements are not FDA approved and therefore have an unknown factor with behavior modification.Now the question that most men will never answer is the following; "has your wife gained any weight or had any medical conditions?" Believe it or not most men have an extreme sense of loyalty to a soon to be ex-spouse, where these questions would be, in their mind disrespectful if discussed with a stranger or even a close friend. Only in therapy is is found out that a spouse has grown to where they feel un-attracted to their partner especially if they have gained weight or a medical condition has changed their appearance.Now for the kicker. If you are a man and you read through the profiles on meetville, probably over 75% have some mention of "honesty" or a reference to infidelity somewhere in the profile. It does not take a psychology degree to realize that these women have felt betrayed in their marriage and was the reason for their divorce. They also feel this will be the main priority on the next go round. It is a shame to say this, but infidelity is never the reason for the divorce as experts agree that that is a symptom of a divorce...in other words, it is the final straw that brings a marriage to a conclusion. Unfortunately, most people never come to terms for the failure of their divorce and often repeat that behavior as 2nd marriage end in failure 75% of the time.So how prevalent is mental disease or psychological and personalty disorders untreated and divorce? I think it is very significant...it deals with this very subject very well!And ladies, while you all are thinking that the men you meet on this forum are all "Players" perhaps that may be correct based on the fact that the men that date in 40's and 50's are in no rush towards marriage where the statistics are not favorable and they most certainly do not want to rush into a situation where they are telling their Bartender; "do you know how long it is been since I have sex with my 2nd wife?" Friendship is important! I am seeking the rare person who I would call a "kindered spirit..you know by just looking at their eyes, an old soul if you will...going to live music venues and things of interest such as Martini's at Fernbank.

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    woman

  • Relationship

    Separated

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    Someday

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Christian

  • Body type

    Athletic

  • Height

    6'0"

  • Eye color

    Brown

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

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