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United States, New York, Fishkill

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About Me

I have this Theory about Divorce....After years of being in the Hospitality Industry and watching people behave in Public and especially (a little bit) older people, I have made some fairly decent observations. I think.I can't tell you how many men I have served who have told me about their pending divorce and out of habit I always ask the same question; "As head of your family, are you sure you have done everything to put your marriage back together?" I *** a "yes" from these men and my most favorite response is; "I am ashamed to tell you this but my wide and I have not had sex in over 2 years!" In some case I go further and ask a few more questions such as; "is your wife going through menopause or pre-menopause?" or "have you or your wife lost there Mom and Dad in the last couple of years?" Each one of these questions denotes a critical cause and effect psychological condition that could be responsible for the marital issues at hand....and can be handily treated and resolved in most cases. These are just 2 common things people our age go through during a marriage if we are in our 40's and on.There is a problem that has creeped into the divorce cycle that is commonly mis- Unfortunately over the counter supplements are not FDA approved and therefore have an unknown factor with behavior modification.Now the question that most men will never answer is the following; "has your wife gained any weight or had any medical conditions?" Believe it or not most men have an extreme sense of loyalty to a soon to be ex-spouse, where these questions would be, in their mind disrespectful if discussed with a stranger or even a close friend. Only in therapy is is found out that a spouse has grown to where they feel un-attracted to their partner especially if they have gained weight or a medical condition has changed their appearance.Now for the kicker. If you are a man and you read through the profiles on meetville, probably over 75% have some mention of "honesty" or a reference to infidelity somewhere in the profile. It does not take a psychology degree to realize that these women have felt betrayed in their marriage and was the reason for their divorce. They also feel this will be the main priority on the next go round. It is a shame to say this, but infidelity is never the reason for the divorce as experts agree that that is a symptom of a divorce...in other words, it is the final straw that brings a marriage to a conclusion. Unfortunately, most people never come to terms for the failure of their divorce and often repeat that behavior as 2nd marriage end in failure 75% of the time.So how prevalent is mental disease or psychological and personalty disorders untreated and divorce? I think it is very significant...it deals with this very subject very well!And ladies, while you all are thinking that the men you meet on this forum are all "Players" perhaps that may be correct based on the fact that the men that date in 40's and 50's are in no rush towards marriage where the statistics are not favorable and they most certainly do not want to rush into a situation where they are telling their Bartender; "do you know how long it is been since I have sex with my 2nd wife?" Friendship is important! I am seeking the rare person who I would call a "kindered spirit..you know by just looking at their eyes, an old soul if you will...going to live music venues and things of interest such as Martini's at Fernbank.

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    woman

  • Relationship

    Separated

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    Someday

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Christian

  • Body type

    Athletic

  • Height

    6'0"

  • Eye color

    Brown

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

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    Jeptha

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    Man. 55 years old. Zodiac sign: Aries.

    Looking for: woman. In age: 52-62

    I'm a open minded, smart guy with a big heart and lots to share looking for a lover, best friend and partner. I'm moral but not a prude, slow to judge because life has thrown me some things I never expected. I like to work hard, but laugh and have fun too. I'm looking for a girl that is classy, knows how to share and accept my sharing, and is smart. My first wife of 25 yrs will tell you that I am loving, compassionate and generous. I will tell you that I am an open minded person that likes to always be curious and learning. I love old movies, good music, especially from the 60's, 70's and of course later too... my son lives in NYC and enjoy visiting there now! ... and I love the American West... I enjoy the beach, but more often the mountains... I don't like really hot weather.I enjoy some time alone occasionally. But I am mostly a "my girl" kind of guy. In other words, *** being out with the boys or a male friend, I generally prefer being with my girl if she is free. And while I am not clingy in the least, I do prefer to make most of my plans revolve around she or maybe, YOU and I.As an only child, my Mom taught me to never be selfish and I have a soft spot for the underdogs of this world. I was a very good Dad and was "there" for almost everything important as they grew up. So, I know the value of family relationships and will respect your needs with your family and would like to get involved with a great family where I can fit in. l If you have younger children, that is o.k. too. If they can accept me, I will naturally grow to love them too. I have taught both young married couples and teenagers and they would tell you I can be really fun and often irreverent.... so if you are looking for "boring" or "no personality", pass me by. I have a type A personality and never meet a stranger, but don't crave the attention of most other people or get my kicks out of being president of this, or having my pic in the paper for that.... Does this make sense?By the way, while still a believing Christian, I have done everything you can do in church ten times over and I am glad to let others do most of those things now. I will confess I am skeptical about some things the church has become... so seemingly entertainment oriented at many churches. But I still respect Christians that are steady, dependable folks that don't just tell they are praying for someone, but get off their butts and give or visit or risk involvement with people who are hurting. I try to be that kind of guy myself. But I still believe prayer matters too.Also, if you are someone that holds grudges or can't get over some past hurt or someone that just "writes off" someone because they have offended you at some time... again pass me by. I have to be hit over the head with a "2 by 4" before I get that you are really angry with me. And I am quick to forgive and try to never hold grudges. And loyalty is HUGE for me. I think people are more important than things and that none of us can have too many friends... and that friends are too valuable to be casually tossed aside.. Also, I will always be quick to tell you I am sorry if I know I have stepped "on your toes" in some way. Yes life is too short to waste time being angry... lets get over it, and get back to hugging and kissing and enjoying each other.... There is much more, but that will give you an idea of what makes me tick.... If you want to know more... let's talk. 55 Year old guy looking for "rest of life" partner/best friend. On a first date, I would want to meet you somewhere you would feel comfortable and somewhere where we could just talk and maybe eat as we get to know one another. I would let you choose where we go if you have a preference. I believe in treating a woman like a lady, pulling the chair, opening the car door, etc. If you don't have a preference, I take pride in showing others places I think are "neat" or "special"... so I can make decisions for us too....======================================

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  • Allaric from Fishkill | Man | 51 years old | Cancer
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    Man. 51 years old. Zodiac sign: Cancer.

    Looking for: woman. In age: 48-58

    I'm not set on what I'm really looking for right now.I just moved in New West and I don't know anyone here yet, would like to meet someone that lives near New west train to go for coffee and a chat.I'm friendly, caring and honest to a fault, I was told I was a bit too honest sometimes .I'm very young, I was even told I was boyish.Free thinker and opinionated and I can sometimes be overly passionate about certain things.Events in my life in the last 2 years have changed things for me, brought me new perspective..Whether it be a friend, lover or something else remainsto be determined..All this sound all so serious but I assure you i have a great sense of humourand enjoy goofing around and having a good laugh. I want to find someone that inspires me, that adds to my ''raison de vivre''.I like people who can think for themselves, non-religious and capable of having a discussion usingtheir own thoughts and not what they read or saw on TV the night before hehe.I'm not into tv sports. I find it ridiculous to root for a team and spend money to make them all millionaires while they do not care one bit about you.I prefer to watch young kids play sport, at least they're not doing it to get rich.If you spend a day with me, jeans and t-shirt is like my Sunday's best :)I'd love to find someone to go camping with, I mean in the wilderness with a tent by a fire..Just the wildlife, water and chill...Anyways, if you made it all the way down here and you're still awake, you've got good stamina..Bravo hehe.November ***update : I started stone carving again, something I used to do years ago, it's given purpose and direction to my lifeand I'm doing much better :) I've attached a couple of photos of some of my new art pieces :) It doesn't have to be a date.. We can just go for a walkhave a chat, see if we click in some ways and go from there.No pressure.

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  • Eldous from Fishkill | Man | 54 years old | Cancer
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    Man. 54 years old. Zodiac sign: Cancer.

    Looking for: woman. In age: 51-61

    Friends and family are important to me ,I would like to find someone to share my life with .that is one of my goals.,and like I said find someone to share it with .I like being my own boss. there is time for work and a time for play and I like to play a lot I'm the one that says pack your sh*tand let's go to the beach or where ever .life is to short so let's live it up while .we can....... I would find out what you like to do,or were you would like to.go and work around that and put alittle of my way in there make it your nite and get to know each other alittle better and see were the date go's from there...

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