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Nya, 48
United States, Nebraska, Kearney

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About Me

Crap. How do I sound charming, witty and fascinating? That's an awful lot of work, and I feel fairly certain I could only carry it off for about 23 minutes. I guess I will just be me *** at an interesting place in my life. My husband and I are separating. It's been an ongoing process for a while, but we are legally staying together in order to settle our finances and sell our home. It sucks and is pretty annoying to end a marriage. I wish there was something less painful, like bamboo being shoved under my nails, or being seared with a branding iron. But I never luck out that way.All that aside, from an emotional standpoint, things are changing for us. We are good friends and will always be, but I think our passion and desire for each other have left the building. Nothing says "Hey my marriage is down the toilet" more than being separated and on an online dating site. I'm too young to not have passion in my life, but too old to be an innocent, wide eyed girl who clings on some guys every word. Being single at a time in your life when you weren't really expecting it is like walking along with the sun shining and the birds singing and you step in the cross walk and get ran over by one of those Portlandia Bike enthusiasts. It doesn't kill you, but it hurts like hell. You know you will make it through, but you have to heal.I am established in my career and financially independent. I have a serious job, so in my spare time I really want to cut loose and have fun. I'm kind of sarcastic and quirky ( which is the nice way of saying I'm a smart ass), and I like a wide range of music. I sing with a women's chorus. I am also deeply passionate about animals and serve on the board for a non-profit that advocates for wolves. I have a dry sense of humor and really appreciate intellectual conversations. SMART MEN TURN ME ON. I'm in the process of losing weight, so I am pursuing a healthy lifestyle, eating and exercise wise. I have posted a recent, full length picture. I like to be upfront about my size. I understand that we are all attracted to different things. I'm not a 24 year old model. Never have been one, never will. I hope that at this point in my life the most interesting and memorable thing about me is not how I look. I am shooting for reaching a normal weight as I want to be healthy and active for as long as I can. Right now Im a size ***. Sometimes men don't get sizes...I don't like using cute phrases like "I'm curvy" or "I'm big and beautiful". I'm overweight, not happy about it and trying to change it. If you aren't attracted to larger women, then my pretty face and beautiful lips won't make a difference. And as we are on a "fish" site there are plenty of thinner fish out there if that's what you want!:)In short, I'd like to have fun. I'd like to define "having fun". It doesn't mean having a one night stand or that you should contact me to just hook up. Although I'm not looking for anything really serious...I'm not looking for meaningless sex either. That also does not mean that I want to wait 6 months for you to hold my hand. I like things to happen naturally...there is no specific time or pressure on when that should be. Im not a nun. I like sex, I would like it on a regular basis with the right person. I'm not just wanting to date for the stimulating conversations on world politics!I can't deny that I like to kiss. A lot. So...friendship with tongue? Is that a thing?I love to talk with people, but please note that the only pictures I have or will send are exactly like the ones in my profile! ;)UPDATE: I have been out here for about 6 weeks. I have met some really cool people. I have been contacted by some odd people. I have learned that younger men have either watched American Pie or the Graduate and think that all women over the age of 40 are Cougars. I'm going to be honest. I'm probably not bendy enough or flexible enough to do what you think you want to do with me. Unless you are going to pay for my massage and chiro visits after, its probably not going to happen. Sure, you are super fun to look at, and I would like to touch you. It would be fun. But I doubt we could have the kind of conversations that I like to have. I have a 26 year old daughter...so my gut feeling is the first time you smart mouthed me, I would want to ground you or take away the car keys. But, if you are SUPER smart and realize I am not going to be twisted around like Gumby, go ahead and contact me. ;)UPDATE 2: I have been out here a little over 3 months. There are times that I think meetville stands for "Plenty of Freaks"...but there are just enough, nice normal people that its worthwhile. The thing that I'm most happy with, is that I have been able to make some friends. Not everyone is a love connection, but some people are pretty cool...so cool that you enjoy them for their company and you realize that quality time with someone doesn't have to be a big romance. I think people forget the value of there being no pressure...and just having fun. Im still in the drama of divorce crap...so me finding "the one" probably isn't going to happen for a while. In the mean time, I'd like to meet interesting and fun people. Life is too short to not have fun. So for now, my eyeballs are in tact and I forge ahead... Let's wear berets and smoke those smelly french cigarettes and eat a lot of cheese. OROption 2: Probably a coffee date. Just hanging out, talking and seeing if we are compatible. I'm not that picky about someone's looks, although I do prefer someone who is clean and pulled together. For me, it is all about personality and conversation.

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Separated

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    No

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Spiritual but not religious

  • Body type

    Curvy

  • Height

    5'6"

  • Eye color

    Brown

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

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