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Nya, 48

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Crap. How do I sound charming, witty and fascinating? That's an awful lot of work, and I feel fairly certain I could only carry it off for about 23 minutes. I guess I will just be me *** at an interesting place in my life. My husband and I are separating. It's been an ongoing process for a while, but we are legally staying together in order to settle our finances and sell our home. It sucks and is pretty annoying to end a marriage. I wish there was something less painful, like bamboo being shoved under my nails, or being seared with a branding iron. But I never luck out that way.All that aside, from an emotional standpoint, things are changing for us. We are good friends and will always be, but I think our passion and desire for each other have left the building. Nothing says "Hey my marriage is down the toilet" more than being separated and on an online dating site. I'm too young to not have passion in my life, but too old to be an innocent, wide eyed girl who clings on some guys every word. Being single at a time in your life when you weren't really expecting it is like walking along with the sun shining and the birds singing and you step in the cross walk and get ran over by one of those Portlandia Bike enthusiasts. It doesn't kill you, but it hurts like hell. You know you will make it through, but you have to heal.I am established in my career and financially independent. I have a serious job, so in my spare time I really want to cut loose and have fun. I'm kind of sarcastic and quirky ( which is the nice way of saying I'm a smart ass), and I like a wide range of music. I sing with a women's chorus. I am also deeply passionate about animals and serve on the board for a non-profit that advocates for wolves. I have a dry sense of humor and really appreciate intellectual conversations. SMART MEN TURN ME ON. I'm in the process of losing weight, so I am pursuing a healthy lifestyle, eating and exercise wise. I have posted a recent, full length picture. I like to be upfront about my size. I understand that we are all attracted to different things. I'm not a 24 year old model. Never have been one, never will. I hope that at this point in my life the most interesting and memorable thing about me is not how I look. I am shooting for reaching a normal weight as I want to be healthy and active for as long as I can. Right now Im a size ***. Sometimes men don't get sizes...I don't like using cute phrases like "I'm curvy" or "I'm big and beautiful". I'm overweight, not happy about it and trying to change it. If you aren't attracted to larger women, then my pretty face and beautiful lips won't make a difference. And as we are on a "fish" site there are plenty of thinner fish out there if that's what you want!:)In short, I'd like to have fun. I'd like to define "having fun". It doesn't mean having a one night stand or that you should contact me to just hook up. Although I'm not looking for anything really serious...I'm not looking for meaningless sex either. That also does not mean that I want to wait 6 months for you to hold my hand. I like things to happen naturally...there is no specific time or pressure on when that should be. Im not a nun. I like sex, I would like it on a regular basis with the right person. I'm not just wanting to date for the stimulating conversations on world politics!I can't deny that I like to kiss. A lot. So...friendship with tongue? Is that a thing?I love to talk with people, but please note that the only pictures I have or will send are exactly like the ones in my profile! ;)UPDATE: I have been out here for about 6 weeks. I have met some really cool people. I have been contacted by some odd people. I have learned that younger men have either watched American Pie or the Graduate and think that all women over the age of 40 are Cougars. I'm going to be honest. I'm probably not bendy enough or flexible enough to do what you think you want to do with me. Unless you are going to pay for my massage and chiro visits after, its probably not going to happen. Sure, you are super fun to look at, and I would like to touch you. It would be fun. But I doubt we could have the kind of conversations that I like to have. I have a 26 year old daughter...so my gut feeling is the first time you smart mouthed me, I would want to ground you or take away the car keys. But, if you are SUPER smart and realize I am not going to be twisted around like Gumby, go ahead and contact me. ;)UPDATE 2: I have been out here a little over 3 months. There are times that I think meetville stands for "Plenty of Freaks"...but there are just enough, nice normal people that its worthwhile. The thing that I'm most happy with, is that I have been able to make some friends. Not everyone is a love connection, but some people are pretty cool...so cool that you enjoy them for their company and you realize that quality time with someone doesn't have to be a big romance. I think people forget the value of there being no pressure...and just having fun. Im still in the drama of divorce crap...so me finding "the one" probably isn't going to happen for a while. In the mean time, I'd like to meet interesting and fun people. Life is too short to not have fun. So for now, my eyeballs are in tact and I forge ahead... Let's wear berets and smoke those smelly french cigarettes and eat a lot of cheese. OROption 2: Probably a coffee date. Just hanging out, talking and seeing if we are compatible. I'm not that picky about someone's looks, although I do prefer someone who is clean and pulled together. For me, it is all about personality and conversation.

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Separated

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    No

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Spiritual but not religious

  • Body type

    Curvy

  • Height

    5'6"

  • Eye color

    Brown

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

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    Woman. 56 years old. Zodiac sign: Aquarius.

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    Woman. 46 years old. Zodiac sign: Scorpio.

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    I am a 47, year old woman who enjoys life to the fullest! I am very easy going and enjoy spending time with my family and my nieces and nephews. I work in the restaurant business and therefore I'm working ***hours a week. I surely doesn't mean I don't have time for that special someone because like everything you must have balance. I'm blessed with amazing friends in my life who travel to the many awesome beaches out there. I am definitely a BEACH girl! So this is new to me and why not try it. This is a short peek into me...I'll write more later! If you are interested please drop me a line. Lets get to know each other and have FUN! life's tooooooo short!UPDATE: Guys if you are looking for that needy, hang on you , call u 2x a day, kind of woman pls pass me by. I won't be that girl for you! I have a career and work hard Im looking for a partner and equal to enjoy time with! I'm very far from being high maintance !

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    Woman. 48 years old. Zodiac sign: Sagittarius.

    Looking for: man. In age: 45-55

    Hi Guys, I am a busy single mom to my very active boys ages 11 and 15. I love watching them play football, baseball and basketball and I am an active volunteer with their teams. They are with me full time and they are my life. But they are old enough now for me to be able to enjoy some guilt-free ME time.I've been single for 8 years, divorced for 4 and am new to this dating thing - especially the online dating thing. It's like feeling my way around in the dark - will you hold the flashlight for me? I don't know the "rules" if there are any, and I probably would not follow them even if I did. Update: if you have dating "rules", I can only respect them (or not) if I know what they are - that requires communication. I am a BIG fan of communication!My friends tell me I don't know when I am being flirted with. I guess it takes a brick to my head. I just don't like assuming things and then looking foolish. Plus, if one wanted to, one could read something suggestive into just about any conversation. That can be fun - as long as we're on the same page! Humiliating if not!I hate playing the guessing game just TELL ME what's on your mind. That said, I do prefer directness. It CAN be done tactfully, kindly, and with openess and honesty - a must for all my relationships.I am an open book - ask me anything and know that my answers will be completely honest. Not everyone is an open book and that's okay, as long as what you DO put out there is truthful.I can play poker with the best of them but much prefer to lay my cards on the table and think it would be a much nicer world if we all did the same.I wear my heart on my sleeve but am not naive; don't underestimate me ;) I practice living a simple, uncluttered life in the here and now. I would much rather DO things than have things - creating precious memories that last a lifetime. I have learned that the key to happiness and contentment is quite simply - gratitude.Things I like doing... Walking the beach Photography Gardening Home improvements Watching NFL (Steelers Fans need not apply;) Jewelry making Mariners Games Road trips to nowhere Cookouts with family and friends Camping Hiking Reading Writing Things I have not done in a long time but would like to do again... Ski River raft Golf Dance Kiss Bucket List: The above list and... Get a tattoo (update - check! As my boys say, "YOLO!"You must have a sense of humor and not take life or yourself too seriously. I don't care about your weight, profession, income, motorcycles, boats or cars, how many times you work out a week, or all the places you have been (although a Harley trip would be fun! lol!) I do care if you are kind, compassionate, loving, responsible, respectful, respected, emotionally well-adjusted and generally fun to be around. And you gotta love long, passionate kisses that stop time.Thanks for reading...PS You guys are so damn cute holding up your little (and Big!) fishies with those proud looks on your faces. Just precious! ;) I'm not picky.

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