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LouOnline
Man. 50 years old. Zodiac sign: Taurus.
Looking for: woman. In age: 47-57
Everyone on a dating site should read this! "Life offers a surplus of things to do and several ways to meet potential dating partners. A city’s culture of abundance with respect to dating, is further perpetuated by online dating sites that make it easy to meet people that one otherwise may not have met. Ironically, while the option to meet new people increases, it becomes more and more difficult to build a serious relationship.Access to endless people through online platforms makes it difficult to decide who to date. The task of choosing is “debilitating” and once a choice is made, one wonders if it was, in fact the right one. Committing to a person becomes a herculean task, where no matter who one chooses, one will always see someone better. This opportunity cost is not just limited to a potential date – people are stereotypically busy, and have to choose between working, exercise, socializing with friends or, meeting a stranger to see if there is a 'connection'.Similarly, online dating sites create a sense of removal and apathy during the initial stages of the relationship due to the impersonal nature of exchanging inbox messages. Dating requires time and effort, and falling for someone requires repeated human interaction in several forms – making eye contact, laughing together and revealing something about oneself. The more investment one puts in a relationship, the more of a return one can expect to get out of it. A sense of removal means that personal interactions are fewer. Therefore, one has less of an investment in the relationship, and gains less of a return.“How can you get dumped when you were never really involved?”Interesting,isn't it?I saw it on another profile and copy/pasted(I asked her first!),because it explains why people keep coming back on these sites,or never leave them in the first place! Hopefully the awareness of the problem will help us avoid it....But about me :)I'm pretty smart,pretty quiet,kind of sarcastic although not to hurt anyone,see the humor in most situations,don't have a big ego but I'm confident in myself.Never married,have kids that I see regularly,my relationships generally last a long time-not a serial dater at all!I'm busy with work,exercise,renos,family,etc,but want to make time for someone important to me.Like the headline says...Don't be shy to message;it's not a commitment,and I've found that looking at a profile tells you little about how attracted you're going to be to that person in real life! We'll figure it out
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ParkerOnline
Man. 50 years old. Zodiac sign: Libra.
Looking for: woman. In age: 47-57
city boy relocated to the 'burbs. well travelled (every continent except antarctica), funny, educated, well-spoken, well-read, passionate adventurer seeks smart, sexy, gal to explore lifes many facets. i love the usual stuff like: travel, the arts, sports, diving, flying, humor, good conversation, good food, my harley, and a healthy, positive outlook on life. i also like to explore the uncommon, and relish taking the road less travelled... i'm trying to emulate e.e.-case letter's. ;)i am 6'2", and find that 5'6" or greater (in barefeet, (i'm 6'6" in heels)) seems a better fit. ;***Just been notified that i've been on here 7 days... and, i have not met my soul mate yet, WTF!!! :POK, OK, you've seen my deep, sensitive, sensai-like, wise, knowing, zen-master like side, now for my shallow, testosterone driven, superficial side, physical ideals: tall vs. short; dark vs. light; real vs. fake; b**t vs. b**bs (butt b**bs are nice); curves vs. straight-aways; there are always exceptions, and rules are made to be broken. I'm sure your amazing, sparkling personality, vivacious bubbly nature, and wonderful charm and wit will over-ride all of that!!!! (...I still hope you have a nice butt tho) :) lololi try not to take myself too seriously***week ***the natives are getting restless.. we've lost communication with the mothership, and the supplies are growing low... the nights are hot, sticky, and the air is thick with moisture... the constant beating of native drums all night long is maddening... i fear if i don't find her soon, all will be lost, cast away into oblivion for all eternity...- i like mashed potato's... i like mashed potato's... i like mashed potato's (endless loop)Favorite pick-up line: "Does this rag smell like chloroform?"...If you think I'm funny here, you ought to see me in bed, it's a real joke!!(I'm here all week) makes no difference where: beach, forest, musicfest, library, produce aisle... but seeking that undeniable spark, energy and magic!!
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DeaconOnline
Man. 48 years old. Zodiac sign: Libra.
Looking for: woman. In age: 45-55
I am a comedian, nerd, debater, athlete, musician,counselor, traveler, camper, dad, comforter, massage therapist, lover of water, beaches, mountains and forests, I love to play harmonica and guitar (old time rock and blues are my favorite) and am learning saxophone. I love my God(without being religious), my kids and my very blessed life. I would love to meet cool people for dating first who know that friends last much longer than most dramatic relationships. I'm here to meet someone who I can have some fun now that my broken heart has had time to heal. Divorce is a lot like a death...(it's just that the body lives nearby and texts you about the kids once in a while ;). Perhaps we can continue the healing together through laughter, song and .....hmmmm... whatever we come up with together. Aren't sunsets and bike rides more fun with someone to laugh with, talk with, and sometimes just enjoy the silent beauty of a forest path...?I would love to eventually find a woman that I would connect with intellectually, spiritually and physically...then I would definitely want a long term relationship but I really want to develop a friendship first so there is no pressure to meet some weird timeline... If more happens, great... it was meant to be...if not, I probably met a very cool woman who will always hold a special place in my heart.Some of the women's profiles are pretty funny.. oh, that's right, you probably don't know that because you are here looking at guy's profiles.. Well, here's the reader's digest version... 80% of the profiles have more pictures of their dog than the woman... Then there's the girl with the huge fake boobs who's first line was, "Looking for something real" lol...Then there's the others who scream, "Not into games or drama" which usually means they have been hurt bad and they're not as over it as they thought. I am the opposite of a "serial" dater as one woman assumed I was because I originally had "want to date but nothing serious".. Yikes, was she mean. Screamed an *** me for just complimenting her on her cute dog.I just changed it to "relationship" because ultimately, that's what I would love. It's just that I want to meet a woman who wants to have a relationship but doesn't have a desperate need for a relationship. I am looking for an intelligent, adventurous, witty person who will turn me on with her mind and soul as well as her physical appearance. I haven't really dated much since the divorce and this dating online stuff is pretty weird sometime.. I think I have a tendency to scare women off with my open book personality. I think there are a lot of people so guarded, that they get very uncomfortable with someone who is confident enough to fearlessly share not only their playfulness, but also their depth. One lady on here *** and asked, "so, what brings you to POF?". She probably expected the cliche response like..."Uh, to find my soulmate.. (which I think is code for "I wanna get laid" lol)"Instead, because it was after midnight when I answered, I got pretty philosophical and answered with the following:What brings me to POF?Hmm.. that's a tough one... Easy answer is... it's free... *:)) laughingLong answer is,,,, I lost some of me with the marriage and divorce because sometimes you try so hard to please the one that you made a real commitment to, that when they are not liking the real you, you try to be the person they want you to be,...and you stop being you...Now that I'm single again, I want to meet kind-hearted people who might actually think I'm ok as I am... I have a lot of love and I'm not the type that needs or wants to be alone.. Since my son is in college and my 16 year old daughter is .... well.... 16 , I have time to actually think about my own happiness...I like sunsets better when I'm laughing with a sweet companion.. I miss the excitement and nervousness of that first kiss....That amazing feeling of having someone feeling safe enough to fall asleep in my arms.....So, I'm fishing.... Worst case scenario, I meet some cool people who end up being my friends... Go to movies, watch the shooting stars..grab some ice cream and make each other laugh.... best case.... ...I find the one that loves me for me but inspires me to be a better me and I do the same....My pastor's wife once told me something that really touched me... "What if God designed marriage not to make us happy, but to make us Holy?" Quite a different way of looking at it than the world views relationships.. the "what's in it for me" crowd can't begin to understand true giving...What if the man totally stopped focusing on what he "needs" and felt that it was his purpose, his calling to give his wife what she needs, (not always what she wants), but what she really needs, what she needs to feel attractive, loved, respected, honored.... what she needs in order to grow into the woman God intended....And..... what if the man didn't have to ever think about himself because she considered it her passion, her purpose to do the same for him... respect him, honor him, make him feel like a knight in shining armor, have him overhear her bragging to her friends how lucky and blessed she is to have him...How ironic... stop thinking about your needs and your needs get met... focus on the other and if they both do that.... they are both fulfilled.... Agape love.....sacrificial love.... Oneness....I still believe it's real.... Even after some serious heartbreaks.... I still think that was the original plan...And so... it's time to get back the hopeful, optimistic, childlike innocent, make everyone laugh in the room, drop everything to help a friend,... guy that I was and still am...And maybe, if it's His will, meet the one that was meant to travel this road with me...Hope I didn't scare you with the long answer..Well, it must have... never heard from her again... sigh...So, I guess I'm looking for a woman who wouldn't be freaked out if they got a response from a guy like above.So, are you out there? A well read, funny, joyful, thankful, educated, professional woman-child who is so young at heart, her attitude makes her chronological age meaningless? Would you sing with me as I play guitar and harmonica? Or play along with whatever you play, (even if it's just humming). Would you watch the sunset on a beach with me and actually think it's cool to stay long enough to watch the space station fly over? Do you have the heart of a child so that watching a baby deer in my backyard makes your heart flutter? Would you stay up late at night with me and watch the fireflies light up the trees like it's Christmas and think that was one of the best dates you ever had? Would you bike with me, walk with me, maybe scuba with m I'm open to so many different things. A bike ride in a nearby park, a cookout on a deserted beach and watch the sun set and the stars come out, an elegant dinner with some red wine and laughter.... and if we connect, I can give you one of my world famous massages and I can feed you chocolate covered strawberries, and watch a smile come to your lips..;-) ok, that may have to wait for the 5th date..lol(something to look forward to?)