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Deacon, 48
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I am a comedian, nerd, debater, athlete, musician,counselor, traveler, camper, dad, comforter, massage therapist, lover of water, beaches, mountains and forests, I love to play harmonica and guitar (old time rock and blues are my favorite) and am learning saxophone. I love my God(without being religious), my kids and my very blessed life. I would love to meet cool people for dating first who know that friends last much longer than most dramatic relationships. I'm here to meet someone who I can have some fun now that my broken heart has had time to heal. Divorce is a lot like a death...(it's just that the body lives nearby and texts you about the kids once in a while ;). Perhaps we can continue the healing together through laughter, song and .....hmmmm... whatever we come up with together. Aren't sunsets and bike rides more fun with someone to laugh with, talk with, and sometimes just enjoy the silent beauty of a forest path...?I would love to eventually find a woman that I would connect with intellectually, spiritually and physically...then I would definitely want a long term relationship but I really want to develop a friendship first so there is no pressure to meet some weird timeline... If more happens, great... it was meant to be...if not, I probably met a very cool woman who will always hold a special place in my heart.Some of the women's profiles are pretty funny.. oh, that's right, you probably don't know that because you are here looking at guy's profiles.. Well, here's the reader's digest version... 80% of the profiles have more pictures of their dog than the woman... Then there's the girl with the huge fake boobs who's first line was, "Looking for something real" lol...Then there's the others who scream, "Not into games or drama" which usually means they have been hurt bad and they're not as over it as they thought. I am the opposite of a "serial" dater as one woman assumed I was because I originally had "want to date but nothing serious".. Yikes, was she mean. Screamed an *** me for just complimenting her on her cute dog.I just changed it to "relationship" because ultimately, that's what I would love. It's just that I want to meet a woman who wants to have a relationship but doesn't have a desperate need for a relationship. I am looking for an intelligent, adventurous, witty person who will turn me on with her mind and soul as well as her physical appearance. I haven't really dated much since the divorce and this dating online stuff is pretty weird sometime.. I think I have a tendency to scare women off with my open book personality. I think there are a lot of people so guarded, that they get very uncomfortable with someone who is confident enough to fearlessly share not only their playfulness, but also their depth. One lady on here *** and asked, "so, what brings you to POF?". She probably expected the cliche response like..."Uh, to find my soulmate.. (which I think is code for "I wanna get laid" lol)"Instead, because it was after midnight when I answered, I got pretty philosophical and answered with the following:What brings me to POF?Hmm.. that's a tough one... Easy answer is... it's free... *:)) laughingLong answer is,,,, I lost some of me with the marriage and divorce because sometimes you try so hard to please the one that you made a real commitment to, that when they are not liking the real you, you try to be the person they want you to be,...and you stop being you...Now that I'm single again, I want to meet kind-hearted people who might actually think I'm ok as I am... I have a lot of love and I'm not the type that needs or wants to be alone.. Since my son is in college and my 16 year old daughter is .... well.... 16 , I have time to actually think about my own happiness...I like sunsets better when I'm laughing with a sweet companion.. I miss the excitement and nervousness of that first kiss....That amazing feeling of having someone feeling safe enough to fall asleep in my arms.....So, I'm fishing.... Worst case scenario, I meet some cool people who end up being my friends... Go to movies, watch the shooting stars..grab some ice cream and make each other laugh.... best case.... ...I find the one that loves me for me but inspires me to be a better me and I do the same....My pastor's wife once told me something that really touched me... "What if God designed marriage not to make us happy, but to make us Holy?" Quite a different way of looking at it than the world views relationships.. the "what's in it for me" crowd can't begin to understand true giving...What if the man totally stopped focusing on what he "needs" and felt that it was his purpose, his calling to give his wife what she needs, (not always what she wants), but what she really needs, what she needs to feel attractive, loved, respected, honored.... what she needs in order to grow into the woman God intended....And..... what if the man didn't have to ever think about himself because she considered it her passion, her purpose to do the same for him... respect him, honor him, make him feel like a knight in shining armor, have him overhear her bragging to her friends how lucky and blessed she is to have him...How ironic... stop thinking about your needs and your needs get met... focus on the other and if they both do that.... they are both fulfilled.... Agape love.....sacrificial love.... Oneness....I still believe it's real.... Even after some serious heartbreaks.... I still think that was the original plan...And so... it's time to get back the hopeful, optimistic, childlike innocent, make everyone laugh in the room, drop everything to help a friend,... guy that I was and still am...And maybe, if it's His will, meet the one that was meant to travel this road with me...Hope I didn't scare you with the long answer..Well, it must have... never heard from her again... sigh...So, I guess I'm looking for a woman who wouldn't be freaked out if they got a response from a guy like above.So, are you out there? A well read, funny, joyful, thankful, educated, professional woman-child who is so young at heart, her attitude makes her chronological age meaningless? Would you sing with me as I play guitar and harmonica? Or play along with whatever you play, (even if it's just humming). Would you watch the sunset on a beach with me and actually think it's cool to stay long enough to watch the space station fly over? Do you have the heart of a child so that watching a baby deer in my backyard makes your heart flutter? Would you stay up late at night with me and watch the fireflies light up the trees like it's Christmas and think that was one of the best dates you ever had? Would you bike with me, walk with me, maybe scuba with m I'm open to so many different things. A bike ride in a nearby park, a cookout on a deserted beach and watch the sun set and the stars come out, an elegant dinner with some red wine and laughter.... and if we connect, I can give you one of my world famous massages and I can feed you chocolate covered strawberries, and watch a smile come to your lips..;-) ok, that may have to wait for the 5th date..lol(something to look forward to?)

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    woman

  • Relationship

    Divorced

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    No

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Christian

  • Body type

    Average

  • Height

    5'7"

  • Eye color

    Blue

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

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