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Idella, 45
United States, Illinois, Benton

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I am looking for only one similar soul who is sincere, simple and deeply values a small group of people rather than superficially valuing many. Edited to add out of necessity. If you are 10 years younger than I, do not contact me. If you have photos taken by you, in your bathroom, in less than full appropriate attire, do not contact me. And sweet jesus, if you cannot construct a grammatically correct sentence and properly punctuate it, do NOT contact me. A rare true introvert, who detests small talk, but is never shy or lacking in confidence is seeking quality over quantity. I am looking for one funny, intelligent, kind and sincere man. Lazy daters and those that don't make real effort do not interest me. I am fun, simple, down to earth, kind, generous and introspective. I pride myself on my integrity and am looking for similar. If you are flashy, materialistic, are too busy talking to listen and believe that looks are more important than spirit and heart, keep moving. I am not interested. Tough. Funny. Quick witted. Spirited. Completely dedicated mom. Fiercely loyal and wildly independent. These adjectives describe me, but I am equally sensitive, loving and gentle. I am a driven, successful, no nonsense woman. When I build a connection with someone, I am loyal and it is long lasting. In short, I am looking to find the person that is imperfect, like I am, but who is perfect for me.I find joy and wonder in living a simple lifestyle with few possessions and many great experiences, including travel, reading, art and great food. The greatest moments of my life have been spent laughing raucously with my children. I am looking to meet someone who has a loving energy, family values and treats others with kindness and respect. He must be strong yet willing to be vulnerable, driven and passionate with high energy, enthusiasm and a great sense of humor. His character is of utmost importance to me as is his sense of self, conviction and confidence. I detest dishonesty and self obsession. I want to relax and drink coffee together, laugh loudly and watch kids basketball games on Saturday mornings. I appreciate thoughtful gestures and kindness from the heart. I am a good friend to those that I care about and expect the same in return. I am responsible and loving, always a parent first, raising children alone with absolutely no drama or conflict in my life. I am a voracious reader, poor cook, yoga beginner, who loves foreign films and drinks too much coffee. I enjoy jazz music, a good dark beer and dressing up or hanging out in jeans. What about you? Coffee and conversation. Museum. Nine ball at the pub or pool hall.

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Never married

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    Someday

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Spiritual but not religious

  • Body type

    Slim

  • Height

    5'9"

  • Eye color

    Green

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

INTERESTS

Animation Sailing Snowboarding Soccer / Football Play Sport Games
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  • Tiera from Benton | Woman | 45 years old | Aquarius
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    Woman. 45 years old. Zodiac sign: Aquarius.

    Looking for: man. In age: 42-52

    Hi! To make a long story short...divorced twice (first married my son's father, 2nd I married my best friend). I have a great 16 year old Son, a great job and am very good at what I do. I am intelligent, attractive, energetic, sometimes too outspoken and sometimes too set in my ways. I am NOT rich and don't own material things and don't really care (divorce and being a single parent will do that). I think I sometimes scare guys off with my who gives a crap attitude (dating), but I am ME and if you like me for who I am then great. I've kind of been a loner for awhile (never really had close girlfriends, didn't care to) and I have been kind of living in limbo since my divorce from my best friend and partner. Sure, I've dated and even got burned a couple of times, but I refuse to believe that I am going to grow old and alone, lolI am not a player, I don't like games. I am straight up and to the point and expect the same. I am looking for a great guy who can be my friend to start, lover and eventually my partner in life. But if you are just going through a separation, divorce, still hooked on your Ex or looking for an FWB, don't bother with me. I am definitely NOT interested in any of that. Like I said, I get right to the point.I'm fun to do things with, sports, beach, fishing, golfing, camping and watching Rider games (Huge Rider Fan). Many interests and try to enjoy life, but I sometimes stress about things that truly don't matter, but that is just an aspect of my personality and of me being ME. Take it or leave it. I am who I am...I should not have to change myself if someone truly cares about me, as I would not expect that of them.I want a best friend to start and hopefully my partner in life...Don't be afraid to message me. I am still optimistic that I will meet my equal on this disheartening dating site lolKat Something casual or something energetic!

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  • Moll from Benton | Woman | 41 years old | Taurus
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    Woman. 41 years old. Zodiac sign: Taurus.

    Looking for: man. In age: 38-48

    Well, I had this filled out all nice and pretty on my Iphone, but apparently, if you swipe the wrong way, it just erases everything you spent the last hour on FOREVER.... (sigh) Hi! I'm trying this again to see if I have better luck. I'm a farmer's daughter and I love living in the country. I work in downtown St. Louis Monday through Friday, but I really enjoy coming home to the peace/quiet and fresh air. I'm the oldest of three kids (I'm the only girl) and I can be a tomboy. I can get cleaned up really nice but feel most comfortable in a pair of jeans and my hair in a ponytail. I can (and do) cuss like a sailor (mostly when aggravated) but I have a big heart and would do anything for my family and closest friends. I have a soft spot for animals... cats especially. I love dogs too, but my cat is my baby and she runs the house. :-) I love to cook when time allows for it. I work a lot of hours in the legal industry and unfortunately sometimes it's just cereal for supper. But when I do get to cook, my brother is my biggest fan when it comes feeding time. LOL I'm fortunate to have such a tight-knit family. We are protective of each other and love to laugh. Apparently, being a chronic smart ass is hereditary and the laughter is contagious. Having a sense of humor is big for me. Common sense is another trait that seems to be lacking nowadays... I don't have any kids of my own but I am the "Crazy Aunt T" to my niece and nephews. I would love to have my own kids someday. The bar scene is getting old and I'm looking for new ways to meet people. But I guess if it was easy, everybody could do it, right? In my downtime from work, I like to read (it helps to put me to sleep... until I drop the book on my face, then I can read a few more chapters...LOL) I also love shopping, antiquing, wineries, road trips, sight seeing, flea markets (People of Walmart has NOTHING on what you can see at flea markets), sending care packages to the military, stargazing, all kinds of music except rap (although I can handle Eminem when driving home from work some days), getting dirty in the garden or whatever new landscaping idea my mom comes up with, driving the field roads with dad, playing dress up with my niece or geek games with my nephews, I prefer the mountains over the beaches, and prefer fall weather/snow over ***degrees. However, I cannot swim, ski or skate, but I can make one heck of a snow angel followed by hot chocolate and snuggling by the fireplace. I'm not interested in one night stands, head games, sexting, or FWBs, so if that's what you're wanting, I'm sorry. I'm looking for a man between the ages of 37 and 42.

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  • Tori from Benton | Woman | 43 years old | Scorpio
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    Woman. 43 years old. Zodiac sign: Scorpio.

    Looking for: man. In age: 40-50

    I’m Adrienne. I am a good person looking for my someone special. I am usually serious, but have a flare for sarcastic wit. I'd like to meet someone who can dish as well as receive it. He needs to have a humorous side. I have been known to be goofy around my kids, especially when a song I know every word to is on the radio. Then the volume goes up and we sing along. A good laugh goes a long way. My kids keep me grounded and have always been a priority in my life. I would really like to meet someone that can relate to being a parent. Time with my kids is precious and alternated weekly with my ex. Major decisions in my life have my kids' interests at heart, and they will for a while still since I have a 15 year old son and twin daughters that are 11. They are the reason that I have no drama with their dad because that wouldn't help anyone. Today, I am in a good place emotionally and spiritually. I am looking for someone that can appreciate me and the progress I am making of moving on to the next chapter of my life. Dating has drastically changed from 20 years ago. I am optimistic about my future. I can see my life shared with someone, not that I intend to marry anytime in the near future. But it would be nice to be in a comfortable relationship with someone that it would be a possibility. Right now, I want to enjoy the company of another person. Someone to go to the movies, a concert, share a walk on the beach, dinner, talk on the phone, whisper sweet nothings to, miss, and enjoy when we're together. I try to get out and do things. My goal is to regain my fitness level I had 5 years ago (prior to retiring from the Army.) I want to meet someone that is easy on my eyes, tells me things that are on his mind, listens to my successes and troubles, and treats me like I'm a special part of his life. I'd like to meet the person that I think of first thing in the morning and last before I go to sleep. I'd like to do something active so that we can learn more about each other. Having coffee or a drink is nice, but tends to feel more like an interview. I think something active but not too loud would be good to find out about each other - bowling, pool, darts, painting class.I really don't like *** someone for weeks only to never meet. If there is a hint that we like each other, I'd rather go ahead and meet to know for sure before a lot of time and emotion is devoted to a relationship that wasn't there.

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