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Idella, 45
United States, Illinois, Benton

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About Me

I am looking for only one similar soul who is sincere, simple and deeply values a small group of people rather than superficially valuing many. Edited to add out of necessity. If you are 10 years younger than I, do not contact me. If you have photos taken by you, in your bathroom, in less than full appropriate attire, do not contact me. And sweet jesus, if you cannot construct a grammatically correct sentence and properly punctuate it, do NOT contact me. A rare true introvert, who detests small talk, but is never shy or lacking in confidence is seeking quality over quantity. I am looking for one funny, intelligent, kind and sincere man. Lazy daters and those that don't make real effort do not interest me. I am fun, simple, down to earth, kind, generous and introspective. I pride myself on my integrity and am looking for similar. If you are flashy, materialistic, are too busy talking to listen and believe that looks are more important than spirit and heart, keep moving. I am not interested. Tough. Funny. Quick witted. Spirited. Completely dedicated mom. Fiercely loyal and wildly independent. These adjectives describe me, but I am equally sensitive, loving and gentle. I am a driven, successful, no nonsense woman. When I build a connection with someone, I am loyal and it is long lasting. In short, I am looking to find the person that is imperfect, like I am, but who is perfect for me.I find joy and wonder in living a simple lifestyle with few possessions and many great experiences, including travel, reading, art and great food. The greatest moments of my life have been spent laughing raucously with my children. I am looking to meet someone who has a loving energy, family values and treats others with kindness and respect. He must be strong yet willing to be vulnerable, driven and passionate with high energy, enthusiasm and a great sense of humor. His character is of utmost importance to me as is his sense of self, conviction and confidence. I detest dishonesty and self obsession. I want to relax and drink coffee together, laugh loudly and watch kids basketball games on Saturday mornings. I appreciate thoughtful gestures and kindness from the heart. I am a good friend to those that I care about and expect the same in return. I am responsible and loving, always a parent first, raising children alone with absolutely no drama or conflict in my life. I am a voracious reader, poor cook, yoga beginner, who loves foreign films and drinks too much coffee. I enjoy jazz music, a good dark beer and dressing up or hanging out in jeans. What about you? Coffee and conversation. Museum. Nine ball at the pub or pool hall.

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Never married

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    Someday

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Spiritual but not religious

  • Body type

    Slim

  • Height

    5'9"

  • Eye color

    Green

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

INTERESTS

Animation Sailing Snowboarding Soccer / Football Play Sport Games
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    Looking for: man. In age: 39-49

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