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Idella, 45
United States, Illinois, Benton

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About Me

I am looking for only one similar soul who is sincere, simple and deeply values a small group of people rather than superficially valuing many. Edited to add out of necessity. If you are 10 years younger than I, do not contact me. If you have photos taken by you, in your bathroom, in less than full appropriate attire, do not contact me. And sweet jesus, if you cannot construct a grammatically correct sentence and properly punctuate it, do NOT contact me. A rare true introvert, who detests small talk, but is never shy or lacking in confidence is seeking quality over quantity. I am looking for one funny, intelligent, kind and sincere man. Lazy daters and those that don't make real effort do not interest me. I am fun, simple, down to earth, kind, generous and introspective. I pride myself on my integrity and am looking for similar. If you are flashy, materialistic, are too busy talking to listen and believe that looks are more important than spirit and heart, keep moving. I am not interested. Tough. Funny. Quick witted. Spirited. Completely dedicated mom. Fiercely loyal and wildly independent. These adjectives describe me, but I am equally sensitive, loving and gentle. I am a driven, successful, no nonsense woman. When I build a connection with someone, I am loyal and it is long lasting. In short, I am looking to find the person that is imperfect, like I am, but who is perfect for me.I find joy and wonder in living a simple lifestyle with few possessions and many great experiences, including travel, reading, art and great food. The greatest moments of my life have been spent laughing raucously with my children. I am looking to meet someone who has a loving energy, family values and treats others with kindness and respect. He must be strong yet willing to be vulnerable, driven and passionate with high energy, enthusiasm and a great sense of humor. His character is of utmost importance to me as is his sense of self, conviction and confidence. I detest dishonesty and self obsession. I want to relax and drink coffee together, laugh loudly and watch kids basketball games on Saturday mornings. I appreciate thoughtful gestures and kindness from the heart. I am a good friend to those that I care about and expect the same in return. I am responsible and loving, always a parent first, raising children alone with absolutely no drama or conflict in my life. I am a voracious reader, poor cook, yoga beginner, who loves foreign films and drinks too much coffee. I enjoy jazz music, a good dark beer and dressing up or hanging out in jeans. What about you? Coffee and conversation. Museum. Nine ball at the pub or pool hall.

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Never married

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    Someday

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Spiritual but not religious

  • Body type

    Slim

  • Height

    5'9"

  • Eye color

    Green

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

INTERESTS

Animation Sailing Snowboarding Soccer / Football Play Sport Games
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    Woman. 44 years old. Zodiac sign: Sagittarius.

    Looking for: man. In age: 41-51

    ** Please include current pics in your profile... a lot can change in ***years. You've got to have something more current than ***or 6mo ago for that matter.**I enjoy simple things... I want a side kick who likes to and wants to hang out with me.My faith is very important and I seek someone with the same values. I attend Church regularly.I'm not a prude or square... But I do appreciate a respectful man.I do date outside my race... My family is biracial.Love the beachI'm a beginning professional photographerThrift store shopper... I break for garage sales :)Swap meetsI enjoy car showsBoats... Can fish all dayCampingRoad tripsHGTV... DIY, are you crafty?Tattoos ... I appreciate good art work. I have my own and want more.I love all food... To include Sushi and a good variety of Korean KimcheeI am a good cook, but I like to be cooked for too. I need me a good BBQtender, I will do the rest.Enjoy being at home... Quiet night or house full of people. I love to entertain. Super Bowl Party!!!Not a heavy drinker, club goer, or bar fly, that's just not my lifestyle. Not to say I won't go out... I do enjoy evenings out. Casino, Live music or listening to karaoke is cool, and if you can sing... that's a huge plus.Old School r&b and Gospel are my main listening preference, I also like Contemporary Christian, Old Rock, Jazz, and Country.I'm pretty easy going... doesn't take much to entertain me. Casual meet and greet... Coffee works for me.

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  • Jinny from Benton | Woman | 45 years old | Capricorn
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    Woman. 45 years old. Zodiac sign: Capricorn.

    Looking for: man. In age: 42-52

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    Woman. 42 years old. Zodiac sign: Leo.

    Looking for: man. In age: 39-49

    I am a B33BW so if you are not into them....please move on. I have four girls and a grandson that are my life. I am looking for a relationship,and someone to date and hang out with at first and see where that leads us. I have a great sense of humor and I am sarcastic and say whats on my mind. I work and go to school, so I'm pretty busy but I can find time to spend with someone and hang out. I like to text and talk on the phone but most of the time its easier for me to text. I like a variety of music and I like to dance. I like to play cards, watch movies, and hang out with friends. I have been told that I'm loud, funny, and usually the life of the party. I want someone who I can be myself around and they can be themselves. If your into drugs or drink more than once a week, move on...thats not the lifestyle that I want for myself or my kids. I have kids so therefore, I want a relationship with someone thats wants a family and everything that intails. If you dont think you want this, eventually, in your life, then we can be friends and chat but please tell me from the start so there are no expectations of anything. And lastly, if you only want sex, move on. Sex is a gr a relationship but if that was all i was looking for, I could go to a different web site or to a bar and get that. Making out and cuddling is great, but dont expect to have sex with me on the first date. If you are interested and want to chat, text me and maybe ill show you my pic.....***My ideal first date would be what the man decided, once he got to know me a lil first. I like for him to be creative and decide where to go and what to do. I want to be able to get to know them better and hang out.

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