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Pam, 41
United States, New York, Mount Vernon

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Moving further East in the new year!No pic, no reply.Chemistry just happens....there is no explanation.All I know is one thing. You can fight with yourself but the battle with destiny is a tough one to win! I've been through enough to know what I want and don't want and more importantly what I deserve. I am looking for someone that also thinks highly of themselves, it is an attractive trait. A good guy with a naughty side ; So if you think your deserving of someone good in your life, someone that will make you smile, someone you can trust and respect, then message me, lets see if we get along, have that chemistry for one another and go from there ;) I kind of just miss the simple things of being with someone. I miss someone asking me how my day was, making plans together, sharing a glass of wine together, cuddling on the couch, stealing kisses, knowing you have someone to talk to when you have a good or bad day. Someone that simply cares about you........I miss that friendship.Please don't message me if your intentions are not sincere and not truly interested in dating and getting to know each other. Playing with people's hearts and minds is not where I'm at in my life and neither should you be. You need to respect yourself in order for me to respect you, so no games. Simple. That's what friendship is about and how it grows into something more. Boy's can catch me, but only a real man can capture my heart.Most guys run or are intimidated by someone that knows what she wants but I am not looking for "most guys". I am just looking for one man that I can relate with, date, have fun with and see what develops. Being vulnerable is sexy.I'm only human, I make mistakes but I can absolutely promise you that when I say and do things, my intentions are sincere and I always mean well. Open communication, honesty and having an open mind is key for me. I always try and understand the other side as things are not always what they may seem to be. It is important for me as it shows maturity and an openness that we will be able to support one another even though we may not always agree.Finding someone that is willing to take the time to get to know you, that someone you have that *** with, that person you can talk openly with, is not easy to find these days. Looking for that connection, and if we do, I am open to exploring what possibilities lay ahead.A few traits/characteristics that attract me to a man, here it goes:A man with confidence (in a mature manner, not to over power someone)A man that respects himself (this is shown in how he treats others and respects others)A man that can communicate. (Mentally and physically ;***Misunderstandings can happen (true story) so I thought of this new concept and I like to refer to it as "speaking to each other" I know, I know...it's crazy talk but I think it just may work if both parties are open to giving it a try when needed ;)..then move forward.A man that treats others the way he would like to be treated no matter what (always thinking it's a reflection of himself)A man with a warm, genuine heart and not afraid to let me into his life. ( Cause I can only make it even more awesome! And who doesn't want to have awesome in your life? ;)A man with a beautiful smile, that makes me smile just by looking at him.A man with a sense of humor (love to joke around and be playful with my partner) A man that can kiss for hours and hours. (A kiss is just a kiss until we kiss) A man that can admit when he is wrong, (as would I) and doesn't hold grudges (as would I) (life is too short) and I honestly don't have it in my heart to carry on an argument. (See next line!) A man that loves make-up sex just as much as I do! (see previous line for not holding grudges) A man that isn't afraid to just "go for it" and put it all on the line for love. (No flip flopping in your decision making)A man that can be vulnerable (HOT and SEXY)A man that can forgive and forget (SEXY)A man that is honest and sincere.A man that is not selfish. A man that is open minded.A man that has patience (Sometimes when I really like someone I get nervous and don't think straight, be patient and understanding- The heart can do some messed up things sometimes)A man that likes to play games (keeping it in the bedroom!) no mind games please. Straight honesty and sincerity will win me over!A man that lives by "actions speak louder than words"A man that can be romantic.A man that is HOT and SEXY (many of the above traits will place you in this category with me) I don't think it's fair to say that any man would have ALL these traits, however these are just a few traits/characteristics that separate the men from the boys and that I do find attractive in a man. Finding a man with a few will do...many of the above portrays respect, honesty, friendship and pure Sexiness ;)Although I'm looking for someone to spend time with and develop a relationship with, I also very much enjoy my time alone. I, like yourself have things I love to do and friends and family I would like to spend some alone time with every once in awhile. You and I will have our time together but it can be just as important as our alone time. Through my life experiences, one thing I have learned is that anything can happen at any time and you can not plan it nor it may have been part of your big plan. I do believe everything happens for a reason and that it is usually for the best. Some of the most extraordinary things happen when you least expect it. If we connect and you are open to exploring our reasons for our paths crossing, lets meet and see where it will lead, we will never know till we meet! ;) I am a genuine person, when I give you my word, I am good for it, and when I say and do things, it will come from my heart. I guess that's the Cancer in me I believe in the good of everyone until you give me reason not to. If I am interested in you, I'll give you 100% of my attention. I truley believe that you get what you put into everything you do.I love a man who knows what he wants and goes for it! There is nothing sexier than confidence. I'm very independant and love my own space at times so I am not looking to take away time for the things that you may love. I would just like to just give you more things for you to love :)If your heart is open to a new adventure, I hope to hear from you, to get to know more about you and what we may have in common.

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Never married

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    Someday

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Christian

  • Body type

    Average

  • Height

    5'6"

  • Eye color

    Blue

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

INTERESTS

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