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Hello..and welcome to my profile. Yes..its a longer one..but I think being clear on who I am, and who I am looking for saves us both time. You have a fairly good idea if you want to contact me. :-)All my pics are very recent...some within the last few months, all within the last year or so. Please make your pics recent too. :-)"We did not change as we became older...we just became more clearly ourselves". Lynn Hall"Aging is not lost youth but a new stage of opportunity and strength." Betty Friedan ***"When we tune into the essence of joy within us, rather then either avoiding the pain or seeking joy from external situations, we become our own beacon of light. We have a smile that cant be shaken." Sherry Bezanson"The whole secret to existence is to have no fear."~ BuddhaA few of the lessons life has taught me so far: you've got to roll with it :***the punches)...have a plan B and C when plans fall through, and live life to the fullest each day, even if one is riding solo. Aspire to become fearless, not reckless, but fearless. Find wonder (little miracles are all around us) and humour in the everyday, and treat yourself well.How would I envision the man for me? my one and only?Looking for an enlightened guy...he has learned many lessons but knows there are an infinite number yet to learn. He knows that a good relationship is based on a deep friendship...and that is where we would start. He smiles easily because, like me, he gets it. (When you get it...life becomes easier...because you know everything is meant to be..and you exhale.) He is happy within himself.He knows life is made up of moments, and he treasures the little things. He is practical and likes to fix and or create(even if only with words...or music.) He considers himself even tempered and his emotional baggage is stored appropriately. He knows his own personal power..he has 'grown up', and he doesnt need to come on heavy. Hes all about exploring life but loves his down time and doesnt have a problem with just chilling, reading or chatting sometimes. Hes an optimist..a positive person; he loves to laugh, even at himself at times, but can be serious too when he ponders about why things are they way they are and he figures there could just be more to THIS life then what we can see. He uses his brain as much as his hands...an intelligent man is a turn-on! :-) He has an affinity with animals (like me, he most likely owns a dog) and he has had children, as I think having the responsibility and challenges of raising kids, especially on ones own, takes a person to a different level. He has lived enough that he knows who he is...what he stands for(so he wouldnt fall for just anything)...and he would call himself sincere. He, like me, knows good communication is vital to the success of any relationship, and conversely, lack there of, leads to its demise. Communication is HUGE for me.The trials and tribulations in his past have made him the man that he is today, as we are all the accumulative sum of all our past experiences. A complex past that he has grown from and moved forward from is ideal. After all, 'adversity is the stepping stone to greatness!'He is independent yet wants a true partner, a monogamous relationship, someone with which to multiply the joys and divide the sorrows.Me?I am a single mum born of European parents, with a full time long term technical career; my one and only child a son, is 20 and is a mature young man living on his own, but still likes to check in with Mom about the important stuff. I am goofy and fun, but I am wise, the kind of wise that comes with embracing all of my past challenges; I see many facets to one thing or one concept. I like to stay active in both body (walking my dog, time at the gym, swimming..gotta back to yoga) and mind. I LOVE to read ..nose in book frequently!! (My departed Mother read until the day she died..and was as smart as a whip!) At least one book a month.. more if they are page turners (lately its one book a week), & research anything that is of interest to me. I love the Arts but also Science.(The higher you go...the more these two intertwine) I would like to learn something every day for the rest of my life. I see the BIGGER picture..and am fully aware that I am a spirit living a physical existence to learn what I need to in this lifetime. I believe in being optimistic despite any circumstance; seeing the glass as half full or look for the 'silver lining'. Being out in nature, or being surrounded by animals (even party animals on occasion :***are passions of mine. I love to cook and taste; to combine diverse flavors by just using my nose. Creative leftovers rock! Spicy ethnic food..make it or take out are both good!I love my red wine(sangria in the summer!..or an ice cold beer.)I love my libations, but everything in moderation; I know when to say when. And you do too. :-) If the mood isnt right or if Im doing a body cleanse...weeks can pass with no 'bevie'.Music is huge for me. I love to check out a band with friends. The sound track to my life..everything from the 70's and 80's, jazz, big blues fan, top 40, Beatles and Stones are corner stones, reggae, soul, and classical (classical is where I live)... CBC R2 while concentrating or on sunday mornings with paper and coffee or driving in hectic traffic. And sometimes all I want to hear is the wind through the trees..and the birds chirping...or the waves crashing on the shore. (YES puleeZ! :-)Love to travel. Now that my son is grown and I am officially an empty nester, I am becoming a renewed travel bug. I was in Aruba recently, and I would love to plan a trip to the Mediterranean with my guy.I cannot handle cigarette smoke...so if you are a smoker (of tobacco or drugs)...we are not a match.I am a forthright child at heart ( I took an online test to see how 'young at heart' a person is..I got 16 yrs old. lol)..and wouldnt make it through my life without my sense of 'haha'. We all should be able to see the humor in life. Life is hugely amusing when looked at from the right angle. ;-)If you made it this far, thank you! for taking the time and having the interest. Good luck in your quest! ~Lets see where this adventure takes us, shall we?~ "The mind has a thousand eyes; the heart has but one". ~Zen"Your life is not your master...it is your child."~ Emmanuel“Try to become not a man of success, but try rather to become a man of value.â€

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Divorced

  • Have kids

    Yes, but they don't live with me

  • Wants kids

    Someday

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Christian

  • Body type

    Athletic

  • Height

    5'9"

  • Eye color

    Green

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    No

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  • Eugenia

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    Woman. 37 years old. Zodiac sign: Capricorn.

    Looking for: man. In age: 27-47

    Hi, thankyou for taking the time to read my profile! I am a fun, bubbly, down-to-earth person who doesnt have a problem meeting people, however i still haven't found the 'right' one for me.I tend to naturally click well with people of all ages & walks of life! I love meeting new people, and am hoping to find that special someone in my life .... It's hard to say what i am looking for as i haven't met that exact person yet.... someone sweet??! I lead a very independent lifestyle, however i do crave affection, attention and passion! Friends and work colleagues would describe me as a "social butterfly" & always with a smile on my face! It's all about having a good time!I'm a bit of a big softie .... but i do have a cheeky side! ;)p.s. if I don't get to reply to your ***, I am so so sorry. It gets very hectic on here! lolFor a first date i prefer something low-key & fuss-free in a relaxed environment. Just meeting up for a few drinks to have a chat and laugh is fine by me. I'd like to think i'm not too high maintenance.

  • Laurie

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    Woman. 49 years old. Zodiac sign: Aquarius.

    Looking for: man. In age: 39-59

    .•* .•¤**¤• *• .•*. ¸¸.•¤**¤•.¸.•¤**¤•…... .. .•*•*• .•* *•. .•* .•¤**¤• What makes me a catch? *• .•*•¤**¤•*• .•* .•*••¤**¤•*• .•* .•*• .•¤**¤•*• ^ `•.¸¸..´¯`•.¸.•´¯`>÷÷****>¯`•.¸¸ .•´¯`• .¸>÷(((o>•.¸¸..¸.•´¯` •.¸•.¸>÷÷(((°> ´¯`•.¸ ¸.•´¯` `•.¸¸ .•´¯`• .¸>÷÷(((°>•.•´¯` •.¸>÷÷(((°>.•´¯`• .¸>÷÷(((°>´¯`•.¸ ¸.•´¯` •.¸>÷÷(((°>About me...my personality is upbeat, always looking to find the beauty in life and in people. I believe that I am fairly attractive, but that is for you to determine. Everyone has a particular type. I would like to find someone who can be friends first, then see where it leads.I am not on here for booty calls or anything else like that. I am on here hoping to find something real and meaningful !!! Life is meant for two !iThe things I appreciate most are honesty and a sense of humor. I am lQQking for someone to share fun times and who is affectionate.People who meet me, typically place me in my mid to early 30's. I look and act young and plan to stay that way for a long time. People tell me I'm quirky, funny and interesting.Don't like to rush things, just let them flow and fall into place.Too fast is toooooo scary !Love out-doors stuff....fun in the sun!!!!!! I would love to canoe, or kayak, maybe fish...fly fish possibly, but have limited experience and would really love to learn more...can you help? Yes, I'm kind of a tomboy, but am good at looking feminine and sexy, which I also LOVE to do. I believe in the Golden Rule. My priorities are simple God-Family-Country in that order. I enjoy wildlife, nature, trekking through the woods, fishing, camping, taking photos, & meeting people.I like to hike and am looking for who can share that same interest as well as many others. There's nothing better than the pop and crack of a fire with the smell of pine and the nightlife sounds of a woods around you. Anything with water and I be there. There is magic in moving water and it still has a spell on me. I'm pretty open to just about anything. After all, it's not always what you're doing-but who you're with, right? I am affectionate and romantically minded. Simply sitting on the couch, watching a good movie, and cuddling with that special someone would fall in my category of a romantic evening. Thanks for reading my little profile. I am not interested in texting or Long E mails, would chat some and have phone conversation and take it from there, you can tell allot from a persons voice. I am not interested in dating someone out of my race! "Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become."Don't ever forget the magic of those whirlwind moments of your life, the ones that are enjoyed most as they unfold, and that we treasure long afterward, those are the ones we experience most deeply...Going boating ....watch the sunset on the Mississippi!Take a river float to get to know each other.Balloon ride over Paris ! On a first date, you can do just about anything as long as that magical spark exists...check for sparks/electricity. I love spontaneity.If you know anyone that's been eaten bya shark, please add this to your profile *** U KNOW A BIKER" PLEASE" RE-POST!! It not only shows respect, it shows you care!!I saw you hug your purse closer to you in the grocery store line.But you didn't see me put an extra $10.00 in the collection plate last Sunday.I saw you pull your child closer when we passed each other on the sidewalk.But you didn't see me playing Santa at the local mall.I saw you change your mind about going into the restaurant.But you didn't see me attending a meeting to raise more money for the hurricane relief.I saw you roll up your window and shake your head when I drove by.But you didn't see me driving behind you when you flicked your cigarette butt out the car window.I saw you frown at me when I smiled at your children.But you didn 't see me when I took time off from work to run toys to the homeless.I saw you stare at my long hair.But you didn't see me and my friends cut ten inches off for Locks of Love.I saw you roll your eyes at our leather coats and gloves.But you didn't see me and my brothers donate our old coats and gloves to those that had none.I saw you look in fright at my tattoos.But you didn't see me cry as my children where born and have their name written over and in my heart.I saw you change lanes while rushing off to go somewhere.But you didn't see me going home to be with my family.I saw you complain about how loud and noisy our bikes can be.But you didn't see me when you were changing the CD and drifted into my lane.I saw you yelling at your kids in the car.But you didn't see me pat my child's hands, knowing he was safe behind me.I saw you reading the newspaper or map as you drove down the road.But you didn't see me squeeze my wife's leg when she told me to take the next turn.I saw you race down the road in the rain.But you didn't see me get soaked to the skin so my son could have the car to go on his date.I saw you run the yellow light just to save a few minutes of time.But you didn't see me trying to turn rightI saw you cut me off because you needed to be in the lane I was in.But you didn't see me leave the road.I saw you waiting impatiently for my friends to pass.But you didn't see me. I wasn't there.I saw you go home to your family.But you didn't see me. Because, I died that day you cut me off.I WAS JUST A BIKER

  • Marcella

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    Woman. 73 years old. Zodiac sign: Aquarius.

    Looking for: man. In age: 63-83

    I'm retired but still full of spirit and silliness and think of myself as an individualist. My photos are recent and have been told I look quite sophisticated. It's how I look, NOT how I am. Actually, I'm very down-to-earth and unpretentious and prefer people who are the same. I was blessed to have inherited my Dad's sense of humor and you'll usually find me smiling or laughing at the absurdities of life. I usually make the best of things even when they don't go my way. I enjoy my home but like getting out, seeing new places and trying new things. I enjoy using my mind and have an interest in a wide variety of things. The things that make me most happy are very often the simplest things... time with friends, flea markets & yard sales (hoping to find an unexpected treasure), people watching, preparing a meal together (I'm a pretty good cook), going for a drive stopping for lunch at some charming spot we will find along the way. I've been single for a very long time and to tell the truth, I've never found the single life particularly satisfying. I enjoy being with others and what would make me most happy would be to find a parter I can love and cherish and share the joys life has to offer. I'm affectionate but not over-bearing, intelligent but not a know-it-all and I am considerate and thoughtful of others. There are many things I enjoy, but doing becomes delight when I can share it with the one I love. Honesty is most important and I treat others, including myself, with respect and fairness. Being able to share some of my interests with my partner is important to me but I think the most important thing to share is our values, our ability to communicate with each other and our willingness to compromise when we disagree. I think it's also important to respect our needs for private time.I have a delightful dog, a Havapoo (Havanese/poodle) who goes by the name, Shana. She's 12 lbs, very sweet and calm, and all who meet her love her. My music tastes run from jazz, the old standards, to the classics. I've been singing jazz all my life and a couple of years ago decided to study the craft and learn proper singing technique to preserve my voice till death do us part. I love a good discussion on many subjects: (currents events, what's been happening in our lives, sharing something we have recently read, thought provoking or funny movies, musicals and documentaries. Having said all that, I think the most important things in a relationship are the values we share, our ability to communicate with each other and our willingness to compromise if or when we don't agree and a respect for our needs for privacy. I am not a religious person but live my life with honesty, integrity and love. And after all is said and done, I'd love to meet someone who is kind, romantic, has some smarts, and is healthy with a healthy sense of humor and who lives within 50 miles of Portland. What's inside is more important to me than appearances although I must admit to finding excessive weight a turn-off.I think I'll end on that note and hope what I've written appeals to you.I prefer a first date to be very casual, meeting in a quiet, public place for coffee or perhaps to share a light meal. We'll get to know a bit about each other and share a few laughs. If all goes well we'll make plans to meet again. :-}

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