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Charlyn, 44
United States, Minnesota, Inver Grove Heights

Offline, last seen Thu, 26 Mar 2026 02:35:53

About Me

So here is my attempt at being absolutely honest.Firstly,Gentlemen, I think you mean well...however,asking for long explanation of someones life is not making conversation, it feels like an interrogation.I went to a lot of trouble to write quite a bit here, if your profile consists of 3 sentences, and write me simply asking me to tell you "My story" you are an idiot.If you are even remotely wondering if you could be a narcissist... I beg you ,Nay I implore you, keep clicking. ;)Having said that..Lets start with the bad.1. My hair does not always look like this,yes it is long,and red,and at the moment in a pony tail. It can look nice,I know that,at times I clean up okay.I am not a Barbie,anyone wanting that is going to be sorely disappointed..lolI am a real person,right now I have and my hair in a ponytail,and that is how I wear it half the time..2.I am picky, I've heard....Cant really help that.Its not at all that I think I'm so great or anything else,except I still believe "The One" is out there somewhere.I'm only putting myself through this to find him.I read people writing here that looks don't matter.I tend not to believe that, in most cases.. Looks do matter...a lot. Some people just prefer one look to another.Personally I seem to be attracted tall semi scruffy,men with a cute smile. Yes,like everyone,I know.Men in ponytails are about the sexiest thing ever in my book.Bald can be very sexy on the right guy. Goatees are cute, big furry beards,just not doing anything for me.Very pretty yuppie looking men,are just a no..It is a safe bet to say,if you get a manicure more then me,its a no..Exceptions are always possible.After that,who really knows what makes one person so irresistible,and another..just not..:(I know all this sounds shallow,in the end suppose it is,again..cant help it.In some way I do believe" The One" must look like in some way what I'm attracted to... I don't pretend to have the answers.Fate hardly cares what I think anyways,I have found that out..3.I'm not a "things" person.... Yes, I like stuff,not quite enough to give up much freedom to pay for it.No I don't steal. Yes,I do work.I don't begrudge you yours(things)either.Its just not something I care about.Your things don't impress me at all,I don`t care what kind of truck/car you have,where you live. I have my own truck,my own place. I'm not looking for someone else's.4. Almost deleted this..I like musicians.. I always have,I have no idea why,it is a problem I am aware of. Im seeking help.lol..It could be something I will get over,however it seems unlikely.I am not starstruck or a groupie type.I have no musical talent at all. Casual musicians,guitar pickers,seem to also seem to fit this requirement. It could just be the long hair,no amount of soul searching has produced the answer for this.I would actually be dead glad to date a man that isn't a musician. I have not had good luck with them..It just seems my fate. One I`d be VERY happy to change. If that is you..please let me know.. Seriously...5. I am more of a Tomboy then a princess type,if you are afraid to get dirty,I will laugh at you..I own dresses and high heels, I clean up nice I think.I also own mud boots and tons of old jeans and old tshirts.6. I have kids.Young ones at home.(12and ***I am not having anymore.. If you hate kids,are annoyed by them,stop reading now. I would like it if you had kids,that makes sense to me. I am certainly not having anymore...7.I am a terrible typer. I work on the computer,its not improving.It looks like I am drunk half the time. I`m not.8. If I really like you,I will say stupid things.I don't know why,I try not to,I just do.I only get my foot out of mouth long enough,to get the other one in.Its unlikely this will change either,as much as I wish that it would.This fortunately does go quickly,its possibly a bloodline curse..I'm not sure. Kind people generally find it funny. Judgmental people do not find this funny,I try to disclose it,I know it will happen.I dread it every time.. The good thing,is also this is an isolated issue,that is only activated around men I really like alot..9. I have horses,and farm animals.If we end up together,I'm going to ask you to help with the fences.. That is just life,fences break down,they need fixed.It is very hard to do by yourself. If that sounds like a nightmare for you,Im not the girl for you.I will however do things that are in compensation for said fence fixing help etc..The Good.1.I am not shallow,I do not judge people by their station in life or their bank account or by the car they drive.I've had a lot of money,and driven the best cars,and lived in fantastic places. I do not any more,because it wasn`t worth the cost,in freedom.Everyone has their priorities,and we all find them at different times.Life is an adventure,if you stop growing,that when you start to get old. I am certainly not the person I was 10 years ago,or even last week.2.I am good with children and animals,I will like your dog,your dog will like me,your kids will like me.. This has always been a constant,Im not bragging,its just true.3.I can cook,quite well I have been told.I don't eat fast food,okay I try not to.I try to cook with as much organic as can..Chemicals are bad..I grew up on a farm.. Real food is good..I would really like to grow much more of my own vegetables etc. I blew it on the garden this year,next year I have huge plans.You should care about this in some way. I think the world is slightly in trouble,it is good to have your own food,also you know where it came from,and it tastes better. I am not a crazy zealot,I just think it makes sense. Its fun to grow things isn't it?4.I`m not crazy,colorful yes,but never in a dangerous way.My exes all still speak to me.Most still like me a lot,and we are friends. If you run,I will not chase you. I am neat like that. Even if hurts I will not chase you,life is not a movie,if people runaway,its because they do not want to be near you. I respect this thinking. Its not romantic to stalk.5.I am nice,I don't do mean and nasty things that men fear girls will do.If you lose your job,I will not leave you,I never leave anyone in bad times.This has also been a downfall of mine. If I love you,I am loyal like a dog.I don`t turn in to a devil if I have pms.6.I know things,I read things,I like to talk to men I like..I have ideas,I wont just smile and nod,, lets not call it a date... I also thought I should add that I am a serious MMJ advocate/activist, so if that bothers you, probably better to keep clicking. If you have any interest why, just ask ;)What I definitely do not want to do, is go for a ride on anyones harley......

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Divorced

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    Someday

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Other

  • Body type

    Average

  • Height

    5'5"

  • Eye color

    Green

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

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