Total users: 61,420,245 Online users: 221,154
Bok, 34
United States, Michigan, Birmingham

Offline, last seen Tue, 17 Feb 2026 05:58:54

About Me

Looking for an independent, employed, honest, thoughtful and loving man to share my life with.I'm a single mother of one. My last relationship ended well over 3 years ago and I feel that I’m ready to find another someone special. I’m 5'4" tall, brown hair/eyes, fair skin, curvy figure, not a 10 but am confident with my appearance. I've spent the last four years pursuing a degree, which left love on the back burner. I’m ready to get back out there and find someone that I can connect with emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. I consider myself to be a good person, I try not to intentionally hurt others, and offer a helping hand whenever possible. It’s hard for me to see someone is a predicament and not help, although I’ve come to realize some people are beyond help, and I’m often disappointed when my efforts are unrealized. My friends would say that I’m too nice. I would say that I'm still learning that I can't save people, and probably need to reserve all my niceness for the people who mean most. I’m not interested in a relationship with anyone with a substance abuse problem or sex/porn addictions. I do drink socially (few beers) but otherwise live a clean and responsible life and am looking for the same.I feel like I need to discuss my religious beliefs upfront. There are a lot of men on this site for whom the subject of religion is very important (been an issue in the past) and I wouldn’t want to waste your time or mine…I don’t believe in organized religion nor would I consider myself a Christian of any kind (cannot be converted). I grew up in a highly dysfunctional yet extremely conservative Christian home. This upbringing poses confusion for anyone that possesses logic and critical thinking skills, in my opinion. Even so, I’m a spiritual person. I believe in good and evil as well as the power of positive and negative energies. I think as long as you’re a good person, do your best to live your life in positive way, and try not to cause pain to others you’ll have nothing to worry about when you leave this life. If I had to subscribe to any school of thought on the matter of religion the Buddhist teachings for the pursuit of TRUTH, WISDOM, and COMPASSION for all living things makes the most sense logically to me, and aligns closely to the beliefs I’ve formed for myself. I don’t expect for you to believe what I do, but I do expect the person I choose to spend time with to respect my beliefs as I will yours.I’m looking for a strong, loving, compassionate, honest, and trustworthy man who lives separately from his mother (deal breaker) that shares similar life and love values. Other deal breakers include: must have job, must have a car that you can take me out in. I don’t mind driving, but I don’t want to be the ‘driver’ in the relationship (even in this age group is has to be said). I think the full package of attraction includes physical, emotional, and intellectual chemistry in addition to the checklist that everyone has, although I’m not married to that checklist. I’m confident in what I can bring to a real relationship and what I have to offer to one good man. Drinks or coffee for a first date is perfect initial meeting, that way neither of us feel obligated.

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Never married

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    Someday

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Other

  • Body type

    Average

  • Height

    5'4"

  • Eye color

    Brown

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

INTERESTS

French Italian Japanese Thai
Wink Icon color PERSONAL INFORMATION Fave
Chat

SIMILAR PEOPLE

Great
stars 4.1 out of 5 based Rated 4.1 / 5 Based  on  377 reviews
  • Barrie from Birmingham | Woman | 31 years old | Leo
    Barrie

    Offline

    Woman. 31 years old. Zodiac sign: Leo.

    Looking for: man. In age: 28-38

    I guess it's time to update this... For starters, I do love the outdoors, but wouldn't say I love EVERYTHING outdoors. This goes for being active as well. I work out on my own schedule doing activities that I like to do.- it's not me. I try to stay in shape and love SKIING, hiking, camping and various other activities, but they aren't my entire life. Everyone has a habit they just can't kick - and cooking is mine - some friends might say I'm a little obsessed with it... I try to cook every day and the meals tend to be healthy, but I'm all about beef stroganoff every once in a while :***and my family recipe is killer!I love traveling and take the opportunity whenever possible. I've been to five continents and hope to make it to the other two soon. (Luckily Antarctica was my first overseas trip, so that one's out of the way:) I love learning about new cultures (particularly when it's exploring a new cuisine). I consider myself pretty open-minded, but I guess people can judge me how they will. That being said, I do tend to have conservative views (sidenote: open-mindedness and conservatism are not oxymorons). My view of being a conservative is to take responsibility for my actions and I expect others to do the same in their lives. As far as looking for that special someone - I think I have a pretty good idea of what I'm after and it's probably easiest to just list what I'm not after. (I hope no one takes offense to this list, but then again, I'm just being honest).1) I can't date a guy that can't spell. If you grew up in America, you were blessed to have a decent public education system - you should appreciate it and use it. 2) I'm not interested in people that are still trying to figure out what they want to do in life. I know what I want and have had a decent job for the last 7 years. I have an established career and life and am looking for someone with similar ambitions.3) I wouldn't say I'm completely against dating someone that has been divorced and has children, but it's not on my priority list. I would love to have a family, but am not sure how I feel about raising someone else's. It'd have to be a pretty extraordinary circumstance.Again, I mean no offense to anyone, but I think it's best to just be honest and up-front with the 'deal-breakers' and those are some of mine.If you haven't gotten tired of my ranting... feel free to shoot me an *** am a pretty traditional girl, so it's unlikely that I'll be initiating a conversation, but I am on an online dating site, so you never know!After many interesting messages, it's come to my attention that I need to add more to this list.4) Modesty is attractive. A nice body is great, but taking a picture of yourself in a mirror with your shirt off is not flattering - it doesn't matter who you are. It'd be ridiculous to say that attraction isn't important, but all looks fade and the basis of a relationship shouldn't be that someone has a six pack (sorry, I'm 31 and I live in reality - a six pack to me means that you probably spend more time than I care to in the gym, don't eat the foods that I prefer to cook, or have freakish genetics that I'll never be able to feel comfortable around). Even if the latter is true - no one needs to boast about it.5) I do drink alcohol - I've listed that already. It's not going to change. I rather enjoy it and I have absolutely no guilt about it. If this is not the lifestyle that you are looking for, then you should be looking elsewhere. ...

    Chat
  • Tama from Birmingham | Woman | 33 years old | Capricorn
    Tama

    Offline

    Woman. 33 years old. Zodiac sign: Capricorn.

    Looking for: man. In age: 30-40

    Isnt this question the same as the earlier one...I love the arts but im not artsy.... love fine dining but I love my dirty water dogs, you know.... love sports but, im a girly girl... I love the outdoors but cant wait to get home to my shower... anyway internet dating has it come to this haha... yuh... so i love the family and friends.... and i spend a great portion of my time with them.... I have a nice life just want a guy to compliment it... I want someone well of course i can give u the list that i bet ever girl on this site has... , funny charming.. smart, witty, killer smile.... bla bla bla... but yeah i need someone that has his stuff together and really wants to go out and have a good time and not in a creepy kinda way... lol... well if your a good guy you will get it.... well good luck all... I am easily entertained.... so it would depend on where the moment took us... maybe a local brewery... its getting nicer out.... coffee and a walk by the water... dinner... u know the ususal first date stuff... if the guy is a cool cat might he dare paint ball on a first date? lol

    Chat
  • Stacy from Birmingham | Woman | 31 years old | Capricorn
    Stacy

    Offline

    Woman. 31 years old. Zodiac sign: Capricorn.

    Looking for: man. In age: 28-38

    I am happy person i try not to let people bring me down. I love going to the movies and spending time with my family and close friends. I am looking from someone who has the same goals and aspirations as me. I dont want to play games. I am looking for a lasting relationship not a one night stand. Message me if u want to chat:) Guess it's up to what we decide together:)

    Chat
See more
Follow Us: