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Abigail, 32
United States, Michigan, Belleville

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Alright, time for an update! I've met quite a few people from this site. I've had the mixed bag of experiences here, probably like everyone else. But here's what I've learned so far:Dating is a pain in the ass. I'm about fed up with it. So where are the real men? The non-flaky, honest, straight-forward men? Why do the men I meet seem to think it's kosher to ***, lie, or BS a girl? Be straight up - if you're interested, SHOW IT. If you're not, SAY SO. Don't BS a lady, GIVE IT TO HER STRAIGHT. If you say you're going to do something, DO IT. Don't say you'll talk to her tomorrow then just not bother to call or text. Or make plans and then call 2 hours after you're supposed to meet to say that you have a sick dog. That's just a bunch of crap and tells a girl that you can't be relied upon. It also demonstrates that you probably aren't interested and just don't have the balls to say it. That may seem severe, especially given that you may have only just met or talked to a girl. But seriously, the character of a person is based on whether they follow through with what they say they're going to do. Right? If you don't plan to talk until next week, or maybe not at all, say so! I'm kind, caring, fun, smart, sexy and have a great job. I don't w***pounds, I'm not a crackhead and I don't think I have unrealistic expectations of anyone. I'm just a down-to-earth girl looking for companionship. My radar must be broken or something because every time I think there's a connection, I'm left in the dark wondering what the hell happened. I'm really, really sick of that. So really, guys. Man up. Don't put yourself out there if you aren't willing to be honest about crap and be real. If you don't want or have time for the same type of "relationship" that a lady on here is looking for, don't message her! Why message a lady that's looking for something long-term if you just want to get your rocks off? If you're looking for a fling, I am not your girl. Anyway..I've been single for about a year and a half now. Does that bother me? Not really. While I do miss the companionship and comfort of having someone special in my life, it's not a necessity for me to function. In other words, I'm not the needy type. I like having my free time to do whatever, whether that's playing video games, window shopping, doing something outdoors or baking. Having plans with someone is great, but I have a secret love of the spontaneity of making last minute plans. It's exciting! I love to be surprised :) I have an awesome job that I love. I'm not a work-a-holic. I work my 40 hours like everyone else and then go home. I'm hard-working and dedicated. Work keeps me balanced. I'll be adding school to the mix in the spring. Looking forward to that. I'm a mix of a nerd and a tom-boy, I suppose. I have my "girly" side that is expressed at work in my business dress and demeanor, but at home I prefer jeans and running shoes. I use "sir" and "ma'am" when addressing those I don't know or those who are my elders. I love to hike, camp, fish, shoot, etc. The landscape is beautiful here, though a lot different than where I'm from, so exploring and seeing new things is always very exciting for me. I'll always be most at home in the middle of the woods, though! I can sit and listen to the wind in the trees for hours :) So, aside from those things stated at the very beginning of this profile, what am I looking for? Companionship. A guy to do things with, to experience life with! Going camping, watching a movie, taking a hike to a new place, cooking dinner together, or just driving down the road to an unknown destination in silence - these things are better with a partner! The things I value most in a guy are honesty, hard work, intelligence, dedication, kindness, and understanding. I don't expect anyone to be perfect - I'm certainly not. I'd prefer someone at or around my fitness level - which is not hardcore. Basically, just don't be a couch potato! If you can't be out in the desert hiking for a few hours, you'll never keep up with me! I'm not hung up on looks. While I appreciate an attractive guy just as much as any lady, looks are only skin deep. I'd take an intelligent, kind, "normal" looking guy over a ego-boosted "hottie" any day. Well, that's that. If you'd like to know more, just ask. If you're meeting someone for the first time, it's not a date - it's a "Hi! This is Me!" kind of thing. Given this description, I'd say dinner, a hike, a show, or some event that allows for conversation. No pressure!

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Never married

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    Yes

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Spiritual but not religious

  • Body type

    Average

  • Height

    5'9"

  • Eye color

    Hazel

  • Smoke

    Yes, socially

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

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