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“What should I do about the wild and the tame? The wild heart that wants to be free, and the tame heart that wants to come home. I want to be held. I don't want you to come too close. I want you to scoop me up and bring me home at nights. I don't want to tell you where I am. I want to keep a place among the rocks where no one can find me. I want to be with you.” Jeanette Winterson Handful...searching for someone with big hands....Someone willing to take their hands off the handlebars of life.... and whose world does not drop off at the edge of town...A few important details to consider before contacting me...Some things I have learned are... not to concern myself with most of the worlds problems...It is my opinion that If each of us would take a GENUINE interest in our PERSONAL worlds we would eventually individually and THEN collectively impact the world entirely.....Is that enough ly's?Do Not Misunderstand....My patriotism is unrivaled....LOVE our Country & RESPECT our flag...Believe we owe a LIFEtime debt to every Soldier & Sailor...I have a wall in my home with the word "Remember"...Below it hangs a Picture of "The Wall".... many images of our flag... and the POW bracelet I wore for almost 40 years now framed respectfully in a shadowbox...All Gave Some...Some Gave All....Salute!That the hotter things are...the faster they cool off...Education & Job Titles do not improve your chances for Love...It is your character that defines you...not your career......put zero importance on material things...so, If you Search for someone with a bunch of "stuff" to represent their "worth" or level of success....wrong girl...Beauty can sometimes be a curse....someday...we will all grow old & ugly...in comparison to our younger years...do not let your mirror deceive you...No One "Knows Exactly how you feel" EVER...That a good dog can cure almost any hurt....and singing out loud makes everything better....That If you "fib" about little things...You will Lie about what is important ...If you are not a man of your word....you are not a man....in my opinion...I will willingly return the consideration....Because...I have been careless with a heart....and in turn my heart was broken....now I am Prudent....I still make pictures out of clouds...and wonder what I'll be when I grow up...I would rather know the feeling of the run to 1st base***times than the slide into Home Once.Sometimes you have to swear like a Pirate...Without Fear there would be no Courage....I prefer Campfires over Candlelight...Consideration over Flowers...Actions over Apology'sAnd Affection over Everything!Can't Golf...but willing to drive the Golf cart....Love to fish....I hold the secret citation for "The Large Mouth Limb Fish"....Most comfortable in Jeans & a PonyTail....but willing to be persuaded.... Would Love to learn Guitar & the Timbales...Willing to RE Learn Love....I have been unmarried for almost 32 years....I don't need anyone to take care of me....I am at peace with who I have become...I am comfortable alone....I wish that could change.... I wait for someone who reaches for my hand *** who devours me with his stare....tames me with his touch....and entices me with his Integrity...And likes to kiss...A LOT!Some favorite quotes...."Let me tell you somethin' You already know...; Rainbows...It's a very mean & nasty place & I don't care how tough you are...it will beat you to your knees & keep you there permanently If you let it...You...me...nobody...is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you hit....It's about how hard you can GET hit... & keep movin' forward...how much you can take....& keep movin' forward...That's how winnin' is done".... ~~Who I'm searching for.....~~"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat". ~~, "Man in the Arena" Speech given April 23, ***Who I'm searching for....~The man in the Arena~ Define Date....There seems to be some confusion...

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Divorced

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    No

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Spiritual but not religious

  • Body type

    Average

  • Height

    5'8"

  • Eye color

    Blue

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

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  • Sharalyn

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    Woman. 51 years old. Zodiac sign: Scorpio.

    Looking for: man. In age: 48-58

    I want a loving trusting BEST friendship that turns into a loving trusting lasting relationship. I want to look into his his eyes from across the room and make him tingle throughout his body and the same for me. I want to be able to call each other any time of day to say I Love You. I want to know that he is thinking of me when we are away from each other. But it is a confident relationship where we know each other's secrets and still love unconditionally. The way love is supposed to be. I could go on, but if this sounds like you........write me. If you limit yourself by distance you're limiting your chances. Are you really "looking". Let's face it, you're not going to find the one in your back yard or very little chance of it anyway. It would be nice, but probably not going to happen. Good luck on that one. Nothing more frustrating than to take the time to send a nice note to someone just to be rejected because you have limited your search to a 75 mile radius. Do you really want to miss out on the possibility that this could be your girl and you turned it down because of ten minutes. I do check the requirements, paying close attention to distance, I just don't know how far away "; is.? We meet at a restaurant and are seated at a corner table. He shows with flowers and is dressed casual but very nice. I dress the same. Conversation starts along with laughter, beverages and respect for each other. We enjoy our dinner, taking our time, talking more, laughing more. We enjoy ourselves so much! We order 1 dessert for 2 and just linger and take it all in!

  • Dorene

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    Woman. 51 years old. Zodiac sign: Cancer.

    Looking for: man. In age: 48-58

    I\'m really down for whatever when it comes to free time, and even if I don\'t think I’ll enjoy something I would undoubtedly bend the rules for someone special. Search for true lover, not egoistic bitch.

  • Tria

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    Woman. 53 years old. Zodiac sign: Libra.

    Looking for: man. In age: 50-60

    Looking to DATE ~ which by definition means I would like to repeatedly see someone to determine if there is enough chemistry between us to grow into a relationship...it's just not that complicated!!!!! Oh....and if you're into being chased or stalked then keep fishin' as I'm a tiny bit old fashioned.....if you don't show interest too then I'll let it drop.I'm looking for the one smart enough to not let me get away! I need someone with enough energy to keep up with me....I'm young for my age & most think I look younger by at least 10 years....just sayin! I've decided this is my year to get myself together, I'm currently a work in progress in health/fitness/weight loss but seeing good results if you're interested....and you need to be able to keep up or challenge me! Thanks for your time.....good luck if you pass me by....please respond if I write you as it's only polite, I can take rejection as well as attention.I Believe: That honesty is always the best policy, however, it can be softened to avoid cruelty....with that said; if you don't want to know, then don't ask! That you should always be very careful about what you ask for, be specific...you just might get it! That being alone may be lonely, but being lonely with someone is worse! That everything in life happens for a reason...time & patience may reveal that reason! That having material wealth does not define who you are but it does indicate how you enjoy your life.Interests: I like to do just about anything...except jump out of a perfectly good airplane, Mountain Climbing (I'm not talking about a climb up a big hill) or to play with snakes! I'm a fan of most sports but not a fanatic...I don't follow any particular team...prefer college over pro games, but never turn down an offer to see either live! Spending time with my girlfriends! I like most types of music, as long as I can understand the lyrics...not so much rap! I love to travel...;...and any warm beaches that have sun & sand. The sun on my face, wind in my hair, an icey drink in my hand...ahhh...on a beach, at a pool or in the back yard all work for me! I like to read, watch or go to the movies...no slashers, gardening & landscaping, remodelling & redecorating, riding horses or motorcycles, boating, having friends in for dinner, dinning out, museums, concerts, plays, zoos......the list goes on!Turn Offs: Hunting...would rather see a beautiful animal in the wild or zoo than on your wall! Liars...I'm a big girl...I can handle the truth! Silence...if there's a problem, then talk to me!Who am I?: I am a survivor, strong willed, soft hearted, more spiritual than religious with a strong faith in God, intelligent, honest, independent, strong minded, curious, well mannered, sassy, a bit of a tease, hot & sexy (or so I've been told) & sure to give you a hard time. I have a pretty good sense of humor...it's the only way to survive in life. I like lazy days as well as the crazy ones...the trick is balance. I am not a barbie doll (duh take a look at the pics) or a trophy wife...and I don't want to be one (a little motivation would be good for working out more). I'm comfortable in jeans, as well as a formal gown...I prefer barefeet or flip flops over 3" heels...although the heels are great for the butt! LOL! I like my house presentable 95% of the time...I have to be organized...I might be slightly OCD...lol! I miss being the person someone wants to get home to see at the end of the day! My career was not my priority during my marriage...I am not defined by where I spend 40 hours a week although I admit there is nothing like divorce for an economic change of values! I have held many titles in my life...mom, wife & lover were what fed my soul...the others just fed the body! I am not into drama or stress...I've survived the effects & just don't do it any more...if at all avoidable!Who I want: I want the "WOW" factor...if you understan that let me know. Someone who can make me laugh, can laugh at himself! Someone who smiles a lot & easily! Understands the difference between making love & having sex...yet understands you can have both within a relationship. Likes or loves to cook...with me or for me! You must "LOVE" dogs (there's a package deal)! You must be able to communicate...verbally, emotionally, physically...don't tune me out or ***! Can you dance in the rain? Do you see the beauty in a sunset or a drop of rain on a flower? Does a childs laughter make you smile & start laughing with them? Can you place your large, strong hand in the small of my back to lead me into a room of strangers so everyone knows I'm with you? Can you catch my gaze from across a room & tell what I'm thinking... Can you hold me if I cry & wipe away my tears....and not be the one to put them there! Can you be my best friend? Can you share your heart & soul?Yes! I am looking for a long term relationship...but it takes baby steps to get things started & get to know each other...so relax & chat with me! If you're looking to chat or IM for months before meeting...then keep on looking! I expect to meet you in a pretty short amount of time to see if there is a real chemistry! None of us are getting any younger...lol! I still want ***years with someone! Not all things in life are fair...however, if you want a response to an e-mail then attach a picture...regardless of your reasons for not having one posted...only fair !Some of you are dancing on my last nerve! When I give you my phone number it's because I would like to get to know you a lot better...it is NOT so I can be a free 900# to assist you with your hands on exercise! Sorry to be crude but seriously! I'm not a prude but I do have rules prior to dating!Thanks for reading...there is still more to learn about me, regardless of how long this profile has become, so drop me a message if you are interested in learning more! Good luck to all! Ahhhh...a first date??? hmmmm...someplace where you can sit & talk, or walk & talk. I'd love to say something awesome, and original, and inspiring...but to be honest, I would like to get to know you and that means you have to talk to me!

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