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United States, Maine, Rumford

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“What should I do about the wild and the tame? The wild heart that wants to be free, and the tame heart that wants to come home. I want to be held. I don't want you to come too close. I want you to scoop me up and bring me home at nights. I don't want to tell you where I am. I want to keep a place among the rocks where no one can find me. I want to be with you.” Jeanette Winterson Handful...searching for someone with big hands....Someone willing to take their hands off the handlebars of life.... and whose world does not drop off at the edge of town...A few important details to consider before contacting me...Some things I have learned are... not to concern myself with most of the worlds problems...It is my opinion that If each of us would take a GENUINE interest in our PERSONAL worlds we would eventually individually and THEN collectively impact the world entirely.....Is that enough ly's?Do Not Misunderstand....My patriotism is unrivaled....LOVE our Country & RESPECT our flag...Believe we owe a LIFEtime debt to every Soldier & Sailor...I have a wall in my home with the word "Remember"...Below it hangs a Picture of "The Wall".... many images of our flag... and the POW bracelet I wore for almost 40 years now framed respectfully in a shadowbox...All Gave Some...Some Gave All....Salute!That the hotter things are...the faster they cool off...Education & Job Titles do not improve your chances for Love...It is your character that defines you...not your career......put zero importance on material things...so, If you Search for someone with a bunch of "stuff" to represent their "worth" or level of success....wrong girl...Beauty can sometimes be a curse....someday...we will all grow old & ugly...in comparison to our younger years...do not let your mirror deceive you...No One "Knows Exactly how you feel" EVER...That a good dog can cure almost any hurt....and singing out loud makes everything better....That If you "fib" about little things...You will Lie about what is important ...If you are not a man of your word....you are not a man....in my opinion...I will willingly return the consideration....Because...I have been careless with a heart....and in turn my heart was broken....now I am Prudent....I still make pictures out of clouds...and wonder what I'll be when I grow up...I would rather know the feeling of the run to 1st base***times than the slide into Home Once.Sometimes you have to swear like a Pirate...Without Fear there would be no Courage....I prefer Campfires over Candlelight...Consideration over Flowers...Actions over Apology'sAnd Affection over Everything!Can't Golf...but willing to drive the Golf cart....Love to fish....I hold the secret citation for "The Large Mouth Limb Fish"....Most comfortable in Jeans & a PonyTail....but willing to be persuaded.... Would Love to learn Guitar & the Timbales...Willing to RE Learn Love....I have been unmarried for almost 32 years....I don't need anyone to take care of me....I am at peace with who I have become...I am comfortable alone....I wish that could change.... I wait for someone who reaches for my hand *** who devours me with his stare....tames me with his touch....and entices me with his Integrity...And likes to kiss...A LOT!Some favorite quotes...."Let me tell you somethin' You already know...; Rainbows...It's a very mean & nasty place & I don't care how tough you are...it will beat you to your knees & keep you there permanently If you let it...You...me...nobody...is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain't about how hard you hit....It's about how hard you can GET hit... & keep movin' forward...how much you can take....& keep movin' forward...That's how winnin' is done".... ~~Who I'm searching for.....~~"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood, who strives valiantly; who errs and comes short again and again; because there is not effort without error and shortcomings; but who does actually strive to do the deed; who knows the great enthusiasm, the great devotion, who spends himself in a worthy cause, who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement and who at the worst, if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly. So that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who know neither victory nor defeat". ~~, "Man in the Arena" Speech given April 23, ***Who I'm searching for....~The man in the Arena~ Define Date....There seems to be some confusion...

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Divorced

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    No

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Spiritual but not religious

  • Body type

    Average

  • Height

    5'8"

  • Eye color

    Blue

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

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