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United States, Maine, Farmington

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About Me

I wish I knew the secret or had the talent to write about myself that would attract the kind of man I am seeking. I have tried several ways to write in this section, but I am not meeting many unique or special men who focus on the important things in life. I've searched and searched profiles that all seem to read the same and have nothing about them that tells me they are men who realize the traits one needs to have a good romantic relationship. I am convinced that perseverance will find me a man with honest and good character; someone who stands out from the mediocrity of mankind.We decent and intelligent women get it - men are usually more about the visual and physical chemistry than you are about the heart, mind and soul. But when will you men get it that the success of a romantic relationship is NOT about looks, snuggling, flowers and walks on the beach holding hands?!!! It is nice to have those things and they do happen with the right person, but the reality is, no matter what you WANT, what you NEED is a truly decent, kind, loving, honest, generous, not needy, compromising, communicative, flexible, compassionate, loyal, humane, respectful, understanding woman!! And what a decent woman needs in a man is exactly the same thing. The success and longevity of the relationship will be based on getting what you NEED, not just what you want, and your ability to seek and reach the enlightenment about which I am writing. Attraction is important, of course, but if your preferences are so shallow or limited, or based on society's false pretense of beauty, perhaps you may want to evolve more as a human being and allow your attractions to be influenced by the light inside the other person, which makes the outside shine with a physical beauty more impactful and real than you could ever imagine!I am not materialistic or shallow. I'm not really concerned about your Harley's or boats, love for sports, how much money you make, your height, weight, hair, music loves, muscles, the car you drive, the house you live in, the way you claim to love God but you don't know how to show love to your fellow mankind, or that you want a woman who wears high heels! That shallowness will attract shallowness and it will get exactly what follows.What "I" care about is your humanity, your self-respect and respect for others, your integrity, your open-mindedness, your empathy, your genuiness... your ability to evolve, grow and learn...your vulnerability to open yourself up to soulfully loving a woman while retaining your masculinity...your hopes, goals and dreams...your care for animals, the environment, children, the helpless, the disadvantaged, the weak...your ability to get through each day with optimism, fortitude, child-like innocence, fun, adventure, spirituality, awe, forgiveness and thankfulness.The success of a relationship will be valued by our ability to uplift, uphold, support, encourage and unselfishly help each other. I want a one-in-a-million man and will search the earth for one. I am willing to relocate for that one-in-a-million man.I believe in volunteer work. I was a volunteer for a NYC homeless shelter for two years and a volunteer tutoring children with school work for 6 years. I have an unmarried older brother who had a stroke two years ago and I am his POA, his medical advocate and I cook all his meals for him to assure proper nutrition. I am loyal, dedicated, determined, loving and full of faith.I don't want a man who has a "type." Even if I am your type, if you are not evolved enough to understand that anyone you meet has the possibility to change your life for the better, open up new worlds and dimensions to you, expose you to a love or experience you have never known before...well, you would probably bore me after awhile anyway. I like open-mindedness, not closed, conservative awareness. I really like people who walk through this journey and world and actually "live," not just exist. I'm not appreciative of a man who does not attempt to treat each person who messages him on this site with respect, knowing she is a human being with a heart and soul, not an anonymous entity to disregard and mistreat. The virtual/computer/internet world is no excuse to be unkind. I message every single man who contacts me. Sometimes it is a "thank you, but no thank you" response, but I always respond and wish the other person well. Remember that when a woman messages you, even if she is undesirable to you, it is still a compliment and didn't your mother teach you to say, "Thank you"? Why is this any different?If you are an honest, genuine man who has written an honest profile on here, be patient with the women who are interested in you, but need to be assured of your genuineness before giving you private information and meeting in person. Allow us to expect the respect from the men we meet on here that you would want your mother, sister, daughter or female friend to expect. It is very confusing and scary while internet dating. Have empathy. I understand there are women on here who are not genuine also; they misrepresent themselves in a variety of ways so they do not want to actually meet, but don't assume that if we delay the meeting, it is because we don't want to meet!I am very fun-loving, honest, direct, loyal, open-minded, intelligent, well-traveled, well-spoken on just about anything, very easy to make new friends all over the world, very dedicated to family and loved ones, diverse in interests, extremely optimistic and positive while retaining a sense of reality, frugal and hard-working. I am a risk taker (never with stupidity or regarding anything illegal) and that has produced a lot of unique, wonderful experiences as well as several hardships. I live life to the fullest and have absolutely no regrets. When I die, I will die peacefully and in the comfort that I went after everything in life that I wanted and loved a lot along the way. I am an extremely flexible person with many interests and likes. What we actually do on the first meeting doesn't really matter. What matters is you are respectful, honest, considerate and communicative about wants/needs/expectations. I would hope that before we meet, we already have an honest comradery and attraction started. I didn't join this site to meet men and date; I can do that on my own right where I live. I am tired of the monotony and mediocrity of what I meet. I joined this site to meet ONE very unique, incredible, special man who has evolved enough to understand this whole profile and is open to understanding that I may be a woman so unique and loving that his life will never be the same after meeting me.

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Never married

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    Someday

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Christian

  • Body type

    Curvy

  • Height

    5'5"

  • Eye color

    Hazel

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

INTERESTS

Volleyball
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