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United States, New Jersey, Cape May

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If I were a guy, I would want to date me. :} Still have my accent, I'm told.I am trying to look at men with a more objective eye (actually with both eyes...) I try to remember to ask myself, for example, "If this guy was a woman (and I'm not attracted to women, though I do like them as friends) would I want to hang out with him?" I also like to ask myself, "If I don't do this, is it something I will regret not doing on my deathbed." Not not doing it ON my deathbed, of course, because I'll be too busy dying then, but you know what I mean...Write grant proposals for nonprofits. to raise funds for domestic violence currently; working on my novel and being the best me I can be! I'M REALLY GOOD AT: Communication cuddling, making people laugh (though often unintentionally!), making people feel comfortable enough to open up to me, compassion, love, being a good friend and being a great mother to my dogs (who have since passed). It's been awhile but I recall that when there is chemistry and I am being treated as well as I deserve to be, I am really good at kissing too :}. THE FIRST THINGS PEOPLE USUALLY NOTICE ABOUT ME: My good energy, my smile, my face, my body, my legs, my English accent, my dry sense of humour, that I'm funny and intelligent and attractive. FAVORITE BOOKS, MOVIES, SHOWS,MUSIC AND FOOD: So many books - too many. My favourite authors are dead (though I've been forcing myself to read contemporary fiction as it helps me to write in a more contemporary style): F. I hope you like reading too... I love great movies - mostly independent and foreign. Can't think of any right now.. Love Adele, Amy Winehouse, Blues, the Finn Bros and more. Love good Indian food Thai, Mexican (but too damn fattening!) Pretty much any food that doesn't only focus on meat and chicken. I'm a semi-veggie (or pescatarian) just eat fish and sea food. I don't care if my partner eats meat. In fact, they all have... I love to find places to eat with food that tastes good but is healthy, or finding recipes that are low calorie without unnecessary fat... like adding oil to rice in Persian restaurants...why would anyone do that?! THE SIX THINGS I COULD NEVER DO WITHOUT: Dogs (my last one passed in November ***and I'm waiting for the right time to get another), my friends, my health, my creative abilities, my spiritual life, exercising, yoga and meditation I SPEND A LOT OF TIME THINKING ABOUT: Mysticism, the deeper reason for things e.g. life lessons as in I believe life is a school and we're here to overcome challenges, ideas for my novel, my personal and career goals. THE MOST PRIVATE THING I'M WILLING TO ADMIT: I'm shallow but I'm deep in places..I can be shallow about superficial things like looks and chemistry and attraction and the way most people spell "your" when they mean "you're" as in "you are," and compliment when they mean complement, which as a writer, I ****ing HATE but as I love some of the people who do this, I have to remind myself that destroying the English language is a triviality (Or at least I try to tell myself it is...). YOU SHOULD MESSAGE ME IF: You want to find your best friend who's kind, supportive, loyal, fun and funny and intelligent - and your greatest lover - all rolled together into one sexy package. If you want a woman with whom, when your lips and bodies touch, you feel as if you belong together. And, amazingly, you love her on the inside too! You're looking for someone who's as passionate in and out of bed as you are and with whom you can crack up and be silly too and eat stuff in bed and watch movies and cuddle after... I have a lot of positive qualities and that's what I'm looking for in a man so we can share something amazing together. And hopefully can remain intrigued enough to want to keep on discovering stuff about each other until it's time to pass over. (sorry didn't mean to spoil the moment...:}**PLEASE READ:** ON COMMUNICATING: It's impossible for me to tell if I have a connection with someone who writes a sentence fragment, or one or two sentences and has a skeleton profile. I have to be with someone who knows how to communicate. But I gather these guys just look at the photos and continue to send fascinating messages such as "hi" or "how are you?" ON THE AGE THING: I am 55 but feel and look in my early to mid-40s. My primary pic was taken this year. Can't change my age on this thing. Tend to be physically attracted to guys a bit younger than I am (from early 40s). But if you're my age or a bit older and have lots of energy and hair (on your head :}) and haven't let yourself go, it's not a dealbreaker. ON CHILDREN: I prefer not to date men with children unless they don't live with you, or they're grown up (it would be helpful if the man is grown up too :}) I only know how to be a good mother to dogs! Some men write "My children will always come first." I'm sure it's because I don't have kids that this is a turn-off, but it is what it is. ON DOGS: If you don't love dogs, we aren't going to be a match as I will be getting an other Great Pyrenees as soon as I can..Thanks for shopping with us. :} Something casual during the day, like brunch or coffee to see if there's a connection. **Important Disclaimer **PlentyofFish! WARNING: Any *** individuals using this site or any alternate/associated sites for any studies, projects, advertising, sales, or for any other purpose DO NOT have permission to use any portion of this profile or pictures in any form or forum both current and future. You are hereby notified that any dissemination, distribution, or copying of the information contained in this profile WITHOUT CONSENT AND COMPENSATION is strictly prohibited and protected under copyright and other applicable law and any violation of same is unauthorized and subject to legal action and other remedies. There is no implied consent with respect to this posting.

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Divorced

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    No

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Other

  • Body type

    Athletic

  • Height

    5'1"

  • Eye color

    Brown

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

INTERESTS

Dance Volleyball
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  • Adena from Cape May | Woman | 51 years old | Aquarius
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    Woman. 51 years old. Zodiac sign: Aquarius.

    Looking for: man. In age: 48-58

    I don't even have a return ticket home yet and I'm not in any hurry to go back. But I am taking this opportunity to help with my Grandfather's care and keeping an open mind as to where this is leading me. Hello....I'm glad you stopped by. I am hoping to be in the right place at the right time to meet the right fellow. I live in the rural neck of the woods and I am ready to share my life. It's hard to find a good match in such a small pond. I am blessed with a home and beautiful surroundings but I am not necessarily anchored here. I am open-minded about life. I believe what goes around comes around and try to live my life with that in mind. I appreciate all types of music like Blues, Jazz, Classic Rock, Country, and some Rap can be fun to dance to. I also enjoy music from the 50's and 60's. Remember songs like, "; "; "Downtown," "This Guy's in Love," "I Only Have Eyes for You," "Cherish," "; "I Say a Little Prayer for You," "You're Just Too Good to be True (I Love You Baby)?" Ok, sappy, but I like it. And...ok....totally by accident (of course), I was listening to an old Bee Gee's YouTube upload....The greatest songs, I believe it was called.... like.... "More Than a Woman to Me," (amongst others) and I rather enjoyed it. I would like to be more active (it's better when you can do things with someone). Clubs, dinner, rides at the fair, and traveling would be fun. I would also like someone to show me some of their interests such as golf or snow skiing if that's what you like. I also like hanging out at home, watching TV, surfing the web, walks, cooking or making a garden with someone special. I have done many different things in life. I used to play and sing in a band, worked with the elderly, worked with children, and developmentally challenged adults and children. I have worked in a restaurant/pub during the day. I am one math class away from an associates degree (I'm not much of a math girl). But over all I would consider myself a musician/singer more than anything else. Harmony has always come naturally to me and it would really be a plus if we could share that interest. I'm not afraid of a microphone and a stage :) I don't like control freaky types of people but that doesn't mean I don't like someone to lead or guide, or even protect as a gentleman would do. I am not threatened by a more traditional type of relationship. I would like to find my best friend and it turn into love or vice versa. Someone who makes me feel like I want to be a better person and who finds that in me as well. Someone who accepts this red head exactly the way I am. I am honest, loyal, giving and an individual. Very Much luck to you. > ´¯`·.¸¸..> ·´¯`·.¸¸..> A coffee shop sounds cool...or Walmart, where we can push each other around on a grocery cart and have a frozen coke ;)

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  • Darleen from Cape May | Woman | 52 years old | Cancer
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    Woman. 52 years old. Zodiac sign: Cancer.

    Looking for: man. In age: 49-59

    I Like to have fun.love to laugh and smile! Love sports & out doors . The lake the beech are great places to enjoy & relax. & so is my home.. or a road trip!! Life is to short to not make every day a great one. I have a great family I love spending time with & great friends. Looking for a nice guy who can make me laugh & who likes a lot of attention and affection.I am ready to find that one man to spend the rest of my life with!! Who cannot wait to get home to me and I can't wait for him for to get home. My best friend and some one who I can tell any and everything and they can and will do the same with me I love to cook and grill out I love watching college football. I like going out to dinner or staying home and watching a movie. I like to camp & fish I like to ride bikes and almost all out door fun..I'm very laid back and easy going. I only date one man at a time. I'm looking for the same in a man. Please feel free to ask me any questions. No games or drama please.. Oh yeah please no married men. Talk to you soon.; some small talk getting to know each other! Maybe just a cup of coffee. Walk in the park. Really depends on the person and the weather..Relaxed and having fun

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  • Cira from Cape May | Woman | 55 years old | Leo
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    Woman. 55 years old. Zodiac sign: Leo.

    Looking for: man. In age: 52-62

    Looking for that special someone to enjoy the rest of our lives together. I want Someone to make me feel wanted and safe and to share the good and bad times together.Someone that doesn't have a temper and loves to have fun and smile. No cheaters and no one that is separated. I love to go to all sports, also watching Nascar Racing, Colts, IU . I love the beach and water. I love lake life. I love to travel. If we ever fly you have to hold my hand tight, more to the story when we talk. Walks in the park,grilling and a movie at home is also fun. Slow dancing. I like music except for Rap... I dont care where we go or what we do ,I want a partner to do it with. I have 6 grandchildren who are so smart, cute and adorable! I dont mind if you have children and grandchildren as long as we can share them together. I want someone we can enjoy family and friends together. I was married and divorce after over 33 years, Not do to my fault. I have moved on and ready for the rest of my life to enjoy! Im buying my own house and I take good care of it. I have good credit . I push mow my own yard and keep care of it. I ride a bike. I would like to start going to the gym again if I had someone to go with me. I work 40 to 48 hours a week and have perfect attendance! My hours could slow down some if I had someone to spend time with :). I have never been arrested and never had a traffic ticket. I have no Tatoos and no piercings. Please leave me a message if you would like to get to know me.... I can almost enjoy anything anywhere,Jeans nice shirt, dress up,love to walk in a park and go to dinner or a movie. What ever might be happening that weekend.:)

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