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Ruthie, 51

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About Me

The written word. It can convey so much and yet here, on this profile, it seems entirely inadequate. Yes, the pictures help predict a possible physical connection and lists of interests point out the activities we might share but exactly how does one bring one’s essence to life here in this finite box? Because aren’t we all ultimately looking for the kind of connection that surpasses words? Yet the journey has to start somewhere so a blank page (box?) it is and hopefully, when completed, you will have a sense of whether you would like to get to know me better. :)The predictable me…Loving and supportive mother, silly and fun-oriented, youthful in appearance and mindset, loyal friend, committed work professional, compassionate listener, witty and self-deprecating, financially literate and stable, in touch with my nerdy side, watches a little too much tv (I’m working on it!), loves dogs, Starbucks, long walks, regular exercise and smiling -- even when I’m not entirely feeling that way on the inside. The less predictable me…Going with what feels right rather than what is expected, decisions on staying in or going out, my taste in music, responding to a challenge, interjections of humour, loving or hating online dating, initiating the first kiss.I am, in some ways, a study in contrasts. I work in HR, yet am not a very rule-bound person. Not that I don't believe in rules but I also believe doing the right thing sometimes requires understanding the intended spirit of the rules just as much. I believe we learn through our mistakes yet still hesitate about making new ones. Without blinking, I would give anything of myself to my family and friends but would stretch my own self- I am a very social person but prefer having a few very close friends. I’m intelligent but feel like I still have so much to learn.I don’t have a laundry list of what you need to be because attraction is a wonderfully complex thing. It often starts with physical attraction but there is nothing more attractive than a person who truly understands you, maybe even better than you understand yourself. And it's easy to tell when you're in the right relationship because when you are, you are each the better person for it. So if something I have said speaks to you, then I hope you take the time to speak to me. :) A test of chemistry but hopefully more fun than a chemistry test!

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Never married

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    No

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Spiritual but not religious

  • Body type

    Average

  • Height

    5'7"

  • Eye color

    Brown

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

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  • Alisa

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    Woman. 53 years old. Zodiac sign: Taurus.

    Looking for: man. In age: 50-60

    A little about myself, I am divorced for over 4 years now, was married for 28 years ( yes, 28 years) have four grown children. All of which are independent and adults except for my youngest daughter who is almost 18. She finishes HS this year. I'm just waiting until my daughter graduates. So if you do not like the idea of traveling in order to date or get to know me then please just pass me up because I do not want it to be an issue.I am not looking for a one night stand nor a friends with benefits kind of relationship. If that is what you are looking for then please do not even talk to me! I prefer a man of integrity and class who has some old fashioned morals and believes in dating and getting to know one another with respect for one another. Call me old fashioned but I think it is an important part of a healthy relationship.If its important you have a woman in great shape then again pass me up...What can I say except that I am not 25 but 53, had 4 children and am overweight. So if that is a problem for you please spare me the drama and pressure of trying to be what I am not and what you want me to be. Is my health important to me? Absolutely! And I like most people my age do struggle with my weight but I take my health seriously and am always working on bettering myself. I work in the beauty industry, I have to look good but I am far from perfect!I love music, reading, walks, especially near a lake. I put God first in my life, then family and relationships next. I strive to grow and learn all the time and look to surround myself with those who do the same. I am very social and love people and kids, like to be busy and feel productive but also enjoy and appreciate a quiet night watching a movie.I am not one of those kind of people who like to be alone and need their space by not being able to commit. I prefer sharing my life with people and miss having a partner but I also understand that no man can satisfy my every need and always make me happy. I am generally a happy, positive person and find contentment in my life through my relationship with God and a balance in my life doing what I enjoy and what is important to me.I believe respect and love are the two most important things I can give a man and I desire a man who has a passion to grow spiritually while seeking a closer walk with God. I also believe that prayer between a couple is the glue. NO, I did not write what i have posted below this but if I had to express what I think is a happy healthy picture of a relationship and what I want, this would be it.......“Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you've never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colors seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.” Bob Marley Meet for a drink. Flowers are always an added touch ( I'm a woman, what can I say?) Do men give flowers to women anymore?

  • Lilyanna

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    Woman. 54 years old. Zodiac sign: Taurus.

    Looking for: man. In age: 51-61

    Talking about myself is not something I do often, well not at all really but here I go. I do medical billing as a profession and own my own home. I come from a large family (7 of us) and big on family values. My mother recently passed away and my 86 year old dad is now staying with me so I can take better care of him. I love animals and have 1 dog and 2 cats.I'm fit for my age and enjoy walking to keep me and the pooch in good health. I love the outdoors (especially by water) a lake, pond, the ocean a picnic on the beach. I am a hugger and a kisser, like holding hands and showing affection. Yes, there is a time and place for everything but a public display of affection is ok by me. LOLI'm easy to please. A movie (with popcorn), dinner or snuggling on the couch (comfy blanket) is ok by me. I love going to any casino, listening to music, or reading a good mystery. I joke around (alot), have a great sense of humor, love football (NY GIANTS) and the JETS (just end the season) LOL and pretty flex with my guy. Obviously you have to be friends first and see if there is a connection. If you are interested, it would be nice to hear from you :) Something simple. First dates are awkward enough!!!! LOL But together i'm sure we can figure something out.....

  • Marly

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    Woman. 55 years old. Zodiac sign: Leo.

    Looking for: man. In age: 52-62

    I am seeking a man of integrity...old fashioned values and HONESTY...be passionate about life and about me! LOLI am a grammy! I love gardening. Old, dusty antique shops, rocks, fossils, marbles, rock and roll, angels....My grandchildren are such a joy! My pets are, too. If you are not an animal lover, if you believe pets must live/stay outdoors....pass me by. I have pugs, a bulldog and a cat..all inside pets."Just like a knight in shining armor,from a long time ago.I am a man who would fight for your honor,I'll be the hero you're dreaming of.We'll live forever,knowing together that we did it all for the glory of love.We'll live forever, knowing together that we did it all for the glory of love."Seeking a man with integrity and valor. Must be able to help me mulch....lolHave to add this: No alcoholics, drug users, heavy drinkers, heavy smokers...( If you do smoke...please be willing to quit)( If your profile has contact limits, I may not be able to reply to your message..ie. accepts "local" contacts only)If you are an older version of Steve Wilkos....that would be awesome! LOL I found this poem:My dogs live here, they're here to stay.you don't like pets, be on your way.they share my home, my food, my spacethis is their home, this is their place.You will find dog hair on the floor,they will alert you're at the door.they may request a little pat,a simple "no" will settle that.It gripes me when I hear you say"just how is it you live this way?they smell, they shed, they're in the way.."WHO ASKED YOU? is all I can say..;C'mon puppies, time to go and play"then tails wag and faces grin,they bounce and hop and make a din.they never say "no time for you",they're always there, to GO and DO.And if I'm sad? They're by my sideand if I'm mad? they circle wideand if I laugh, they laugh with methey understand, they always see.so once again, I say to youcome visit me, but know this too..My dogs live here, they're here to stay.you don't like pets, be on your way.they share my home, my food, my spacethis is their home, this is their place..***Author UnknownOh and PS I am older than the profile states..I tried to change it...but the site does not allow it. My last photos are from last summer. I LOVE getting senior discounts! Long walk in the park...great conversation....

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