Starla, 50
Online
About Me
While I was bored of fishing on here, I came across the following text and thought how wonderful this author interpreted the signification of a ''relationship''. I think if everyone would make of it their own definition, dating sites would go bankruptcy.Wouldn't it be fun? ;-)ARE YOU WITH THE RIGHT PARTNER? During a seminar, a woman asked: ‘’How do I know if I am with the right person?’’ The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said: ‘’It depends. Is that your partner?” In all seriousness, she answered: ‘’How do you know?’’ The author replied: ‘’Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it’s weighing on your mind’’Every relationship has a cycle, in the beginning; you fall in love with your partner.You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies.Falling in love wasn’t hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience.You didn’t have to DO anything. That’s why it’s called ‘’falling’’ in love.People in love sometimes say:‘’I was swept of my feet (picture the expression). It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing and then something happened TO YOU.Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience.But after few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It’s a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, *** being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking: ‘’Am I with the right person?’’ And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else.This is when relationship breakdown.People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment.Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else. You could.And TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later.Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning how to make the euphoria of the beginning become a sustaining love with this same person you found.SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.LOVE is not a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws of relationship. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.Love is therefore a ‘’DECISION’’ . Not just a feeling.Remember this always:Life determines who walks in. It is up to you to decide:Who you let walk away;Who you let stay; andWho you ‘’refuse’’ to let GO! ***I have no experience in fishing, I hate worms, they are disgusting, loosely, smell bad, and they are too hard to hang on to the hook. In addition, they have no *** ;-)P.S: Don't drink and fish, for sure you may be collecting your jar of hearts, but you might catch a cold from the ice inside your soul ;-)HINT: If you think about meeting me and you don't look like in your picture, get ready to buy me drinks until you do! And believe me, that ain't gonna be fun, cause when I drink too much I can be a real french lady and you might not understand a word of what I'm talking about :-)What am I looking for now? A FrootLoops in a bowl of Cheerios!I'm looking for someone with a similar background (age), a physical connection, who lives near by, but above all, I'm looking for anIQ Connection. Which means ''Intelligence Quotient'' not an ''Inline Queue''.So if your IQ is limited to a one night stand, all I have to say is ''no thank you''. ;I go back to visit family and friends on a regular basis.Just so you know, I wear tattoos...;-I love this place and areas around. I have family and most of my friends live there.My soul is now dancing to this *** course look is not everything, but the initial ''wow factor'' starts right from there, so if you don't have any picture sent with your message...I really doubt that I could feel like answering, no offense ;-)If you send me an ***, thank you for taking the time to do so. If I do not respond please understand that I appreciate the effort but I did not feel that we were a match. I wish you all the best in your search.This is what I think about dating site:It's just like a door wide open on the reflection of a society in search of love, the only problem is that the door opens on too many opportunity and can easily make us loosing our mind.Now tell me at what stage you're at, are you still at the euphoria of the begining? If your initial phase of shopping is over and you are not looking for a casual date, then drop me a line! Rob a bank? You go in get the money, I wait for you in the car as a good driver... (You gotta have faith in my driving skills, I never got any speeding ticket).If we get caught, I don't speak english and I don't know you, but of course,I do get to visit you in jail and pray for the soap barr not to be too hard on you ;)If successful, you get 2% and I get the rest,just to say how much I care about you being healthy, milk 2% is the best ;-)Cheers!
PERSONAL INFORMATION
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Looking for
man
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Relationship
Divorced
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Have kids
No
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Wants kids
No
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Ethnicity
Caucasian
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Faith
Christian
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Body type
Slim
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Height
5'7"
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Eye color
Blue
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Smoke
No
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Drink
Yes, socially
INTERESTS
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