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About myself... there's plenty of good, and just enough bad to keep things exciting. I'm loyal to the death and would have made the perfect knight if they'd let women do it. I'm a fighter when I have to be and am generous with my time and who I am. I don't have a lot materially, but I don't want for much either. I take care of my home, this hundred-year-old hobbit hole that I'll probably be stuck with till I'm a complaining old biddy, and those I love and who are in my charge get most of my attention. I have an almost gut *** support and defend the underdog, and I'll do just about anything to create harmony and fairness. Integrity is so important to me that it can border on the annoying, which leads me to......the bad. If someone called me a "pain in the ass," I'd have a hard time disagreeing with them. A cute pain in the ass. I can be a bit much and too intense. When I'm into something, I'm in it all the way. I might drive you crazy with my analyzing, debating, and discussing. But just tell me to "time out" myself and I'm fine with that. I react strongly to emotional upsets, although I tend to keep most of that to myself and withdraw a little. There's a heaping of the devil inside me, but it's always in fun, and I'm drawn to situations that'll either make people wag their fingers at me or laugh their asses off. These things are usually more fun with company, and I might have, in the past, been accused of being a bad, I would say mischievous, influence.I like when people disagree with me and don't let me get away with thinking that I'm always right. I have a strong personality and will defend my opinions or the other side of an argument just to keep the dialogue going and the thing explored. Don't let me get away with it. Stand by your opinion and prove it's right by digging out the truth of the matter. I genuinely welcome the differences of opinions and life-styles. I couldn't stand to be with someone who agreed with everything I said or let me have my own way all the time.Are you still there?What I do most of the time...I work in higher ed teaching ESL and Comp I & II. I enjoy the give and take that happens in the classroom and the different experiences that others bring to it, especially those from other cultures and backgrounds. That's where I'm most happy and comfortable, with the interaction and the open exchange of ideas.Outside the classroom...I fill my most of my spare time with various art projects, attempts at writing my own stuff, reading, long walks (about three hours a day with the pup), puzzles, occasional work-outs, PBS and BBC, watching home shopping but rarely buying, theatre shows, out-and-about adventures, reading student essays and lesson-planning, and all the other mundane crap that fills up a life. The old oak tree overtop my house keeps me pretty busy year round cleaning up after it, but we thank it for its shade and the roots which soak up the water that would otherwise be in my crawlspace. I suppose I spend a good deal of time fantasizing and day-dreaming as well. I used to a lot more when younger, and still can't help myself. Old habits, I guess. I like stories. I like getting out of "here" for a while. This world can be a little cold, lonely, scary, and caustic at times.Okay, so what am I looking for?You need to enjoy the company of women. Truly. I get it that you can't help but see us as the love-goddesses we are. You're a (straight) man. That's natural. You want us in your bed. But we can't all be in your bed and most of us won't want to be. Those are just the odds. So you really need to respect the fact that we are fellow human beings who share this space in time with you.That would be the most important thing for me. I don't know if I have a type. I've never really gone by that, and if I had to review exes, I would have to say that they were all different. Honesty, loyalty, and communication are so important, plus just being on the same page as far as expectations. Where I've had problems in the past would have had more to do with lack of sincerity or differences in values than anything else. I've tended to give a lot more than was being reciprocated, and I'm not so willing to do that anymore. If you're going to be in my life, then what is it you have to offer that's going to make my life better in some way? Yes, you have the right to ask the same question of me. I guess we'll have to get to know each other a little and decide if it's worth pursuing. I have to add here that I'm looking more for quality and compatibility over chemistry and physical attraction. I know those are important, but not as much as the former two. Chemistry can be misleading and a shallow judge of character. And I think people give it too much precedence. I am open to exploring and seeing what's out there before getting so serious, though. I might even prefer to not have the weight of a relationship at the moment, but it's got to be good for me in some way. I read somewhere that online dating is useful only for casual sex and superficial love. Perhaps. But I'd like to keep believing that something more were still possible...Happy Hunting. ...or, About You...If anything here applies, that would be great. I'm looking for more than just "says 'bless you' when I sneeze"...You’re wanting to hang out in some church basement one fine Saturday night to give it a go at Bingo and you need a date.You'd consider dressing up for me as Spider Man or Darth Maul or Tim Curry from either RHPS or Legend. Asking too much? I don't expect this right away, so it's okay, relax. Maybe someday.You want to get a cup of coffee and have a talk or check out a museum. I'm quite fond of churches and cemeteries as well. A table-chat or park bench while people watching would be nice too.You can whip me up a fine meal. I wouldn't mind helping you out in there, but a man who knows how to take care of things in the kitchen is pretty sexy to me.You're open-minded, or just bored, and would feel like sitting for me while I do some life-drawing sketches. Seriously, I’m in need of some unabashed models.You need someone to accompany you on walkabout around the city or some random small town to discover new things.You're brave.You treat others with kindness and respect.You're sincere and smart, not clever and cool.You like dogs but don't have a pit bull.You feel like teaching me how to bowl.At least one of your favorite movies is animated.You do what you say you're going to do.You don't mind someone who quotes movies and calls out the different states on license plates.You used to listen to Duran Duran and liked them and aren't afraid to admit as much.You're mature and courteous enough to be honest about what you're looking for.The Feedback Booth on Antiques Roadshow cracks you up.You love homemade cookies and can make them. Or know someone who can.Curiosity urges you to try new things and sometimes gets you into trouble.You've restored an old home and actually knew what you were doing. Or didn't but learned a lot along the way.You judge others by their actions not their words and expect the same in return.

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Never married

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    Someday

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Other

  • Body type

    Average

  • Height

    5'6"

  • Eye color

    Blue

  • Smoke

    Yes, socially

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

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