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Shandi, 40
United States, Georgia, Locust Grove

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About Me

First and foremost I want a friend, someone who embodies the parts of me that I am lacking in, and still has some commonality with me. I don't know how else to do this but to date, and then hope something comes of it. Right now I am in the building phase. It is a slow process.I like honesty, creativity of any kind, culture, history --especially Celtic History, but I will take what I can get. Please be liberal leaning with intellectual skills, compassion, and be able to be engaged and available to other people you are around. Gay Friendly, not too judgmental, and fairly open-minded would be nice also. Please no African American Men. I'm simply not attracted to you, sorry,I'm sorry but due to rude short messages, I expect you to meet the character limit with some sensible English if you wish to impress me AND message me here.Conservative Christians need not apply. I am an Irish Pagan. Atheists and Agnostics welcome.I dislike egotism and self-righteousness of any kind. Even my own. ;)I have a bit of fire in me. I am an Aries and of Irish descent. I burn bright occasionally, but it is over quickly if the flames are not fanned unnecessarily --and sometimes I can be guilty of that, i admit it: it is a work in progress. ;)I love history and ancient, modern culture, and travel. I also like computer and video games, at the opposite end of the spectrum. I am over the whole 'dating bar scene'. I prefer places with a little culture to them: pubs or quaint bars some such thing; small cafes.I love food, both to try to cook it and to eat it. I am only a moderately decent cook myself, but I like to experiment. I love to eat a wide variety of things including: Japanese cuisine, especially sushi, Thai, Greek, Middle Eastern, etc. I am a brave eater to say the least.I like most alternative/goth stuff from the 90's, some jazz/blues, big band, swing, rock-a-billy, Celtic Traditional Music (Mostly Irish), and a little bit of classical. I'm not a big top 40 fan, or a big fan of country or rap/r&b. There are some exceptions to every rule.I read mostly sci-fi and fantasy, although generally unknown female writers. I like yoga long walks in beautiful places. I dislike most sports, and am not into extreme activities of any kind --you go right ahead.I am looking for someone who likes to laugh and joke; quick witted and comfortable in their own skin. Someone is comfortable hanging out at home and cooking and watching movies, with occasional trips out during the week. A true unappreciated geek who is looking for a quasi-hip (in her own mind because she has a piercing and a tattoo) girl who is independent and will tell you exactly what she thinks.I dislike people who do not follow through, or tell you what they think you want to hear, *** being honest. Lay it on me, I can take it. I can't promise you will like my answer but life is too short to not say what is on your mind. Coffee or a happy hour drink is more than fine. We should generally know within a half hour to 45 minutes whether we like each other or not. The second date is better for a casual dinner. NO MOVIES. I can think of nothing less exciting than spending a lot of money to sit in a dark enclosed space with someone I don't know, and can't talk with to get to know. ;)

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Never married

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    Someday

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Other

  • Body type

    Curvy

  • Height

    5'2"

  • Eye color

    Hazel

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

INTERESTS

English Indian Irish Mexican Portuguese Fantasy History Sci-Fi American Football Bowling
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