Shala, 40
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About Me
Ultimately, what you should get out of this is that just be kind. To me, to anyone you meet in all parts of your life, whether it's in a professional or personal setting. Don't be hurtful. Keep your promises. Honor your commitments.. Don't lie. Accept rejection gracefully.I generally don't have many set requirements for my date, but you need to be over your freaking ex. I'm tired of being the rebound girl and watching you pining over the girl that dumped you months ago... if you're just separated, and I don't care for how long, please don't waste our time. Please also have time to date. That's awesome that your work keeps you busy, but if dates are once every two or three weeks, no. You don't have time to date. I can be pretty patient but that's a bit much. Also - communication is awesome. Turns out you can't read someone else's mind and lack of it happens to kill relationships.What I've gathered from most of the profiles out there: You're down to earth, you want the same in a chick, you love life and live it to the fullest, you're active and want someone the same (read: no fat chicks... or even average... because, you know, you're perfect), you want someone without drama. And somehow you all have midwestern values. WTF is that, really? Decent guys come from everywhere. :) You're sarcastic, you love hiking, you are all chivalrous (uh, opening the door is just good manners, whether it's for a girl or anyone else), and you think you're the best thing since sliced bread but no one gives you a chance or a second look. You're honest and you don't play games (HA!!); you work hard to play hard, you love to travel, you're not here for a hookup.I tell it like it is but I won't be hurtful (intentionally). Sarcasm is my buddy. If I say "wow look at that! I wish I had one!" That is in no way a hint that I think you should get it for me. Apparently there are chicks that think this? Really? I'm not here for your money, I'm here for a partner to hold my hand and help me face the world. *I have a foul mouth but I can behave like a lady when necessary.*The strawberries are mine. You can move along now.*I love to bake. I would not be a good choice if you require a gluten-free diet.*Here's the cliche "I love to smile" but dammit, I really do.**;Flag". The "staff" is silent. *Hiking isn't all that bad when it isn't warmer than 80 degrees... which leaves maybe a month every year that hiking is acceptable.*I sometimes laugh too loudly*I love to wear heels but haven't had much of a chance lately.*I love cats (have three, shorthair) and dogs are pretty cool, too. I'll supply the claritin or zyrtec if need be.*I will support your causes if you support mine. I'm a great cheerleader, minus the outfit.*I am loyal*I am generous*I will do anything (legal!) for the one I love.*I rarely wear makeup*I have the worst memory*I'm politically incorrect*I've given up on stellar grammar as a requirement, now it's more or less that I'm fine with passable grammar/spelling.*I love country dancing (don't worry, I have a partner so I won't be dragging you with me)*I have two boys, ages 13 and 16. The older one lives with me, the other with his dad. There is no need for a sitter so this will not affect my ability to date.*I go to the gym ***days a week. Just started though, so I'm waiting for some results...*I am a skeptic. If you're gonna quote stats and shit, you better have the sources.*I have a lot of things in my interests sections - Just because it's there doesn't mean I'm an expert on the matter or even good at it. They're just things I enjoy.*Just because I say I like tattoos and piercings, it does not mean that you have to have any.*Religious apologists... theists... I'm sorry, but no.Oh, and - sunglasses on your forehead look dumb. Seriously, don't do it. Top of your head, fine. Literally right above your eyes, just don't even *** also find it rather lame that a lot of guys are shaving a few years ***is not a few!) off their actual age so that they can get around POF's age/contact rule. Makes you seem kinda pervy, really. DUDE. A 22 yr old chick doesn't wanna date your 50 year old ass unless you've got lots of money! In my experience, most of you don't...WOW y'all are nuts. OK OK, not all of you. But geez, if I send a "thanks but no thanks" ***, replying "Whatever" or "I wasn't interested in you anyway" isn't bowing out gracefully. These were from guys that said they're not like the others... So if you're "not like the other guys" and it turns out I'm not interested, keep it classy. One final thing: You can justify almost anything just so long as you say "for science!" Trust me. It works. I enjoy hiking, and thankfully it is finally hiking weather. Mini-golf may seem like more of a teenagers' date, but seriously. It's a heck of a lot of fun. I'm terrible. I swear at the ball. I swear at the course. I swear at my golf partner. Sometimes I even swear at myself. BUT. I don't cheat. If it takes me 14 attempts, I write down 14. Maybe in your column, but whatever... Movies, as long as there is ample time for talk afterwards, is actually just fine. I want to see my date's sense of humor. Food is always good... especially burgers, as long as they're not from some fast food joint (that's second date). Maybe even a walk in the park.
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