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NicholeOffline
Woman. 32 years old. Zodiac sign: Pisces.
Looking for: man. In age: 29-39
Hi there. Thank you for visiting my profile. Since there will be plenty of time for us to get to know each other, here's just a preview.I am single mother of a beautiful 20 month old girl. Like most others, i am here looking for my better half. A best friend, wonderful partner, and great father. I am looking for the package deal. Who isnt? I have always taken my relationships seriously, and in fact, do not like to date casually. Im either in it for the long haul, or not in it at all. Not even when i was younger. I have always been a one-man kind of girl. I am just hoping that this next one will be my last. =) I would like to settle down and just enjoy life. Be happy. Make my partner happy. Well, every girl can dream for this to happen, right?I am a fun, outgoing, yet serious woman looking to start off as friends and just see where it leads. As i just stated, I am not looking for anything casual, so i only ask that those looking for long term (in the end) contact me. Let's face it, we can all go to a bar and pick someone up if that's what we wanted. Its just not my scene anymore. I have simply grown out of it! Please do not interpret this as "she's boring." I can assure you--i am far from that! If there is a football game you want to go to, and you want to hit the Sports bar to watch it? Im game!! Or after a long day at work? Sure. Let's grab a drink! I actually enjoy Sports bars more than just regular bars. They are more classy and you can sit and relax more i think. Also, I would like to be a good role model for my daughter. And i also respect myself too much to just go off with anyone... So i am looking for someone similar. A man who wants to find his life-mate. Please do not waste my time if you are on here just to hook up. You will find it a lot easier to pursue another woman than waste your time trying with me. I just want someone real, serious, and most of all? Who knows what he wants. I feel i have a lot to offer and hope for the same in return. All i need is a chance. And maybe better luck--hmm.. So far, im still looking. But this just means he hasn't found me yet....A few important things to note: 1) Please do not get offended if you have messaged me and i dont reply. I get a lot of messages and will only answer the ones that meet my requirements. Its nothing personal. 2) I will not reply to cheesy pickup lines. Save those for your trip to the bar. I cant believe some of the lines people use on me. Really? Seriously........its not going to work with me. If anything, it makes me NOT want to talk to you. I dont care how hot you are. Just avoid using them, or dont bother contacting me.3) I will automatically delete the messages i get that read, "hey baby" or "hey sexy"***i like to converse with intellectual individuals like myself. If you cannot start a conversation with anything other than "You're hot" or "hey baby"---then there's no chance for us. Its actually a turn off to be called BABY. Im not a baby. Im a woman. I guess you get an "E" for effort. But dont expect a reply. My hand hits the delete button. I dont even look at your profile. And no, i dont care how attractive you are. Looks are just icing on the cake for me. I am far deeper than looks.4) I will hit the delete button if you have no profile picture. Imagine how many OTHERS have done this to you, or will do this to you. How many opportunities are you missing out on?! One of the basic requirements ought to be a photo. If you cannot figure out how to post a photo, then please have someone assist you. I do not want to hear excuses. There is no "CANT." And no, i will not give you my *** tel#. You shouldnt give your info out either. Just figure out how to get your photo on here. When there is a will, there is a way. So find it! =***Please ensure you have more than 1 photo listed if you plan to have a picture of yourself amongst a group of friends. It is extremely difficult to know which one you are, when you are in a photo with 8 other people. I read someone's profile recently--and he too, complained about this. You can put an arrow? A circle? Anything! To indicate which one in the group you are. Or just have a few pictures of JUST YOU also. I dont like to sit there and guess. Stand out from the crowd. Show your confidence! 6) Please refrain from posting photos of you all snuggled up with other women. This is self-explanatory. But obviously i have come across a number of profiles where the guy looks a little too cozy..... I tend to shake my head and think "are you on here trying to find a new partner? Because that photo tells me you are just fine right where you are...."***Do you want to see photos of me sitting on a guy's lap or in a tight embrace? If you just said, "sure, why not?" Then you are not for me. I want my guy to care! And this is common sense. One of the things you should avoid is making your partner worry, doubt you, or not trust you. Dont start things off with any of those things. Dont post those kinds of pictures. Re-think your photos if this sounds like you! You may be sending across the wrong message. Maybe not intentionally either!Thanks for listening. Best of luck. Again, i just wanted to be open and honest. I have been trying this online dating bit for awhile now.and i just had to share my thoughts on a few things!Well? If you made it through this and you are still interested, please contact me. Who knows where it will lead! And if not? Then keep your chin up and good luck! "Just keep swimming!"***the ocean is a large place!Ciao! First dates are always the hardest, but they dont have to be. Perhaps just a coffee or a light stroll. No pressure, and it can be as short or.....as long as you'd ilke it to be!
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LucyOffline
Woman. 31 years old. Zodiac sign: Gemini.
Looking for: man. In age: 28-38
Just ask. Don't feel like filling this part out. Anything but the movies.
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SofiaOffline
Woman. 34 years old. Zodiac sign: Sagittarius.
Looking for: man. In age: 31-41
I'm looking for the right partner, not just a partner for right now. Relationships take work and commitment, but they also need common ground and goals.I generally receive a lot of messages here. Certainly more than many of my male friends who have profiles. That being said, I've noticed a trend. I get a lot of messages from people with the bare minimum of a profile that simply say "Hi" or "Your [sic] pretty". These short messages and the generally unsatisfactory quality of communication that results, led me to add a character limit on initial *** know some of the great guys might not be so wordy, but I'm pretty verbose as you'll note from the length of my profile and there is a TON of stuff you could ask about or comment on. Tell me about you and why you think we might fit, please? You're busy, I'm busy... let's make sure we're on the same page from the get go. I appreciate the compliments, but if you've read my profile you might glean that complimenting my looks isn't going to get you far, at least not without some other content. I like compliments (like most women), but there is a LOT more to me than the surface. The partner I'm looking for will see that. Another trend I've noticed is 'ping pong', a dozen messages back and forth and what appears to be no actual intent on meeting in person. So, I'm laying it on the line right now, right here. If you're interested and we've chatted via messages here, we should get a cup of coffee in person. There is zero point in spending a lot of time getting to know each other online if there is no chemistry in person and/or no way of verifying the other person is who they say they are. I know I'm real, but you have no way of knowing that until we meet. Right? I'm a pretty great girl who through some magnificent twists of fate has been happily single for the past few years, there have been a few intermittent periods of dating but I haven't found a match that really clicks with me and the direction my life is headed in the long term. Some of the twists of fate were amazing, positive experiences and others were more difficult. However, I've stayed unattached because I haven't found the right person...and you can't find the right person if you're attached to the wrong one. Timing can be everything in whether a match works or doesn't, I've been thwarted by that particular demon too many times to get involved with someone I know isn't the right match for the long haul. I know how wonderful the right fit can be in a relationship, so I am reluctant to be in the wrong fit, I refuse. I wouldn't wear a pair of shoes that were the wrong size, why would I settle for the wrong fit in my personal life? I'd rather be single and satisfied with my life, then tied down to someone who is distracting me from my goals. Dating is a trial and error thing, sometimes I'll make a great new friend and sometimes...not so much. Yes, I know what I'm looking for, but it isn't a checklist. I don't care if you have blond hair or blue hair; drive a sports car or a 60s Bug; are an artist or an engineer. I do care about your personality, honesty and ability to be real. If we don't have the same 'end game', no amount of force will make anything work...at least not in the long run. I'm an artist and as such am pretty right brained, yet I've also worked very successfully and happily as an office manager and book keeper (very left brained). I prefer to be able to be spontaneous but have found a certain amount of planning does help make things go smoother and is often necessary in this era with jobs and outside responsibilities. I have one child currently living at home, he's 17. My daily lifestyle is much closer to that of a childless person than that of a parent of young children, except during my younger kids' vacations. I'm open to dating someone with children, but not open to playing mommy to younger kids. If your kids are under 10, I don't know if it will work. I've gotten rather used to the amount of freedom that comes with not having to be home for an 8:30 bedtime. ;-) That doesn't mean it won't work, it just has to be the right connection between us to make it a non-issue. I came to the conclusion while I was traveling (6 months out of the US), that while "things" are nice (I do enjoy and adore my iPhone and Kindle), I would be happier with a simpler life in general. I started thinking about the food we eat here and how commercial farming (and grocery stores) distance us from our food supply; How the tv keeps us distracted from the important things happening in our own lives and in our government...There are bigger issues than the latest episode of The Walking Dead (which I do love). I want nothing more than to move to some land in the country and build a home if there isn't on already there... and raise the livestock that will eventually be on the dinner table and grow the majority of the produce that we eat. So, that's my plan. That's the direction I'm headed. I also want to put in space for various arts and a kitchen designed for teaching cooking. I'm not a fancy cook, but "Organic peasant" would describe the hearty, wholesome food I most enjoy eating and preparing. If I meet the right life partner who already has the land/lifestyle, AWESOME. Anyone I get involved with seriously will be heading the same direction...I'm not interested in wasting time in the wrong fit. If I don't meet the right person, I'm going to do it on my own because I know I'm happier when I'm doing something I care about. Until I get my land, I'm doing what I can within the limits of the 'rules' of our fair city. I have 4 chickens, who are finally laying...well at least some of them are...2 eggs a day now, so I think I'm down to my last purchased dozen for a while. :-) I have a fair sized garden which has produced a fair amount of veggies for us this summer...although I should have planted twice as much broccoli and three or four times as many peas and beans. I'm building a Quonset hut style greenhouse to try to extend my growing season. I like having organic greens 25' from my backdoor and I'd love to have access to fresh "off season" summer veggies. I'm keeping busy. I'm active. I'm eating right. I'm happy. If I'm single for the next 5 years, well that will be disappointing because it will mean I haven't met the right person, but it doesn't mean my life will have been on pause. I don't know if I'll live 50 years more or 100, but I do know I'm going to do my damnedest to make the most of whatever amount of time I have and to enjoy it and be happy. Something reasonably casual, like coffee or lunch. Meeting someone online isn't meeting. It's meeting when you finally see each other in person...that is when you start to find out if there might be more of a connection or not.