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Alfreda, 39
United States, Virginia, Petersburg

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I'm a simple person, no drama. Love life, love my job, love my family, love my friends. Prefer to smile and enjoy each day. For sure a glass half full kind of woman. I don't like to be around negative people who complain about everything and suck the fun out of life. We ALL have issues and problems. How a man handles his problems can be the biggest turn on...or off!!!!! I put 100% into everything I do, at home, at my job, with my family and friends, and I expect the same in return. Integrity is very important to me. I will leave it at that. Oh, and no Mitches, lol.Food for thought:1. A girl throws tantrums. When displeased, upset or angry, she reacts just as she did as a child when she didn’t get her way with her parents. This often consists of screaming, pouting, giving the silent treatment, being passive aggressive and/or punishing. A woman still feels the emotions of being upset/displeased, but has cultivated the skill of responding versus reacting. She comes to the table as an adult, and communicates clearly what is bothering her.2. A girl perceives herself as a princess and believes people should treat her like so. She is entitled and feels that she is owed and therefore expects more than she appreciates. A woman, has standards (what she holds herself to) not expectations (what she projects on to others).3. A girl uses her physical beauty as her currency and basis of value. A girl may be so used to feeling validated through her looks and sexuality, that she uses this as her primary tool to get what she wants in life. A woman, knows her worth is beyond her physicality. A woman bases her value on her intelligence, her strength, her integrity, her values, her contributions, her humanity.4. A girl banks on a man to be her financial strategy. A woman plans to be financially independent – she banks on… herself. And if she so happens to enter a relationship dynamic where it makes sense for her partner to be the primary breadwinner, it’s considered a bonus, not the expected life line.5. A girl sees the world from a place of lack and scarcity. She competes and will even tear down another in order to secure resources or a mate. A woman helps other women. She knows that there’s plenty enough to go around and takes the high road of integrity to get what she wants.6. A girl cannot be bothered with anything domestic and is proud of the fact that she cannot cook or clean. A woman understands that being domestic is not a duty, but understands that it is one way of taking care of herself and others. She also understands that in the event she wants to create a family, having a person in the household who can contribute domestically is important.7. “A girl wants attention, a woman wants respect. A girl wants to be adored by many. A woman wants to be adored by one.” -anonymous8. A girl does not respect her body. She has not yet understood that her body and heart are sacred, and that it’s important to be mindful of how she treats it and who she shares it with. “A girl cherishes handbags, diamonds and her shoe collection as her prize possessions. A woman cherishes her health, her sense of self, and her talents as her greatest assets.” – N. Mah9. A woman takes the time to reflect on the type of human she wants to be, the example she wants to leave and the vision for her life. She has put thought into her values and what she stands for. A girl has not established her moral compass or values and consequently, is often inconsistent. “After spending time with a girl, you feel exhausted because she takes more than she gives. After spending time with a woman, you feel invigorated, because she empowers you with possibility, and a passion for life.” – N. Mah10. A girl has a checklist that prioritizes superficial qualities above anything else. Here is an example of how this checklist may look: Hot, popular, wears skinny jeans, over 6 feet tall, rich.. This is the checklist of what a woman may look for: High integrity, intelligent, kind, good communicator, emotionally available…11. A girl plays games. A woman doesn’t. As a shy person I hate first dates. Anything can be fun if the company is good though. Just don't make me feel like I am at a job interview, that sucks. If you break out a list of the ***things you want in a woman I will get up and leave for real.

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Divorced

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    Someday

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Christian

  • Body type

    Curvy

  • Height

    5'7"

  • Eye color

    Brown

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

INTERESTS

Martial Arts Music Sport Boxing
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    Woman. 36 years old. Zodiac sign: Capricorn.

    Looking for: man. In age: 33-43

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    Woman. 37 years old. Zodiac sign: Libra.

    Looking for: man. In age: 34-44

    Helloooo!! I'm a single mom of 2 teen-monsters. I work and am in school. I am considering taking the next step into getting into the nursing field. Not sure yet if I want to do that. As far as hobbies, I don't have any to speak of as most of my time is given to kids, work and school. Maybe someday I can find one. I am a strong woman in most aspects of my life, but that doesn't mean I always want to be the strong one...if that makes sense. I enjoy getting out, having some drinks now n then, going for a movie, or just being lazy at home. I do own and ride a motorcycle, but not opposed to getting on the back of someone else's. And, hey, if you want to ride b***h, well I'm game for that too. Lol. I like most types of music, but mostly into country these days. Anything more that you would like to know, just ask. Thanks for taking the time to read about me, maybe we will chat soon. I don't have a specific first date expectation other than time for us to talk and have fun and most importantly get comfortable with each other. It's always unnerving on first dates, why put on more pressure?

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  • Mandy from Petersburg | Woman | 37 years old | Leo
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    Woman. 37 years old. Zodiac sign: Leo.

    Looking for: man. In age: 34-44

    Happy Independent Women :) I 'm at a point where I just want to enjoy good people that will enhance my life and maybe a start of a relationship. I am not high maintenance i just take care of myself i am educated, active sometimes to active :)) im clean cut and not a broken woman i have a high drive in life so I gravitate towards the same. Love a quick wit and love to travel.. I used to work for the Airlines so travel is in my blood. The past 11 yrs I 've volunteer my time for Doernbecker children's hospital and Science University for cancer and autism this has been in my life and I'm very strong about these subject's if you would like to know more please ask. My background is Sicilian I get asked all the time.....also if you are looking for a One night stand a Fling... ""Do Not Contact Me...Keep walking""....I'm looking for Deep and Meaningful lessons about Intimacy a friendship that might grow to be something more and I will take my time to find what I want . I demand this in my life and don't want to remain in shallow waters I will keep moving till I find what I'm looking for. I want friendship's ....someone who is a positive person, mentor, someone who understands how to communicate like a adult intellectually this is something I require. I Don't want to change anyone's world and I expect the same..I'm not looking for any kind of ownership from a man I know that my lifestyle and relationships are non-traditional sometimes. I would like my friends to understand my lifestyle and i would like to learn about yours. sometimes i need my own space. my style is very Bohemian from art, music, books that I read and my style of clothing.. Seeking my Friend and relationship in one my partner in crime ;)) I like to meet someone who craves creativity for life. Keep my attention... I would like a man that can be as independent knows how to live and be open minded as me and is not afraid of a independent women who knows how to live and appreciates my philosophical views taking my time for something special taking my time for a commitment Share companionship. Need someone who understands my true self as well as my thoughts...I need a relationship to give me wings and adventure, a purpose I like to feel useful...Truth, Wisdom, Spirit, Freedom, Justice.. Looking for someone to spend adult time doing adult things ;)) Im not always dressed to impress i do love my flip flops, jeans and t- shirts because i love walking the beach walking trails being out doors rain or shine. Other things like watching movies at home with cuddles, reading, skinny dip at night under the stars..lol maybe ;)) go to a public gathering it can be the Farmers Markets, local concerts in the park, cuddles with you watching a Documentry a Biography when its raining outside, hiking I love finding new spots to check out..Wine sampling and drinking it at home in front of a fireplace. I'm not a bar fly, but I do like live music at a local hangout also Im not the kind of girl that gets drunk and starts fights with people... Yuk!! And Why?? There is no reason to act like that Ive seen girls that do this and that is not my style I dont understand it. I'm really a calm friendly person and if you would like to know me please be respectful it's really simple and if you have something to say just say it don't hide I won't stand for high school drama. Independence is essential to my well being...Im not a clingy person all though if i ask questions or Make the first move, ask to hang out Its my personality I'm very independent and a good person.. Im not being clingy just would like to know you better maybe learn something new ..In the future I plan on enhancing my education in my travels this is something I miss very much... my personal life and home is very peaceful must love animals... I have a pet rabbit that is litter box trained and owns the apartment also have a 18 pound male cat that is best friends with the rabbit... I'm a BIG animal lover :)) PETA....Like kissing, cuddles and well let's see were that will take us ;)) Looking for someone that is honest in there thoughts. I like to be in a good mood be yourself. I have a live let live attitude, go with the Flow...I'm bit of a tomboy, but I still can be sexy... ;) hopefully you don't mind that in a women. Looking for someone to have a good conversation with sarcastic crap over drinks or coffee teach me something new i can talk about anything. Please know I'm not a empty headed person a little shy at first but when you get to know me I have a fine mind...I have strong opinions and a desire to do something worthwhile with my life! Friendship ...is key to my romantic relationship..I'm a very passionate person in life I hope to find the same in you. I love my life and myself very much. :))Looking for someone with a strong mind..someone to learn from.. conversations with you and cuddles ;)) someone to travel and see new places learn new things . Yes I'm a lot to Handle....but I'm worth every bit!Hopefully you like Feisty, Playful, Intelligent, Misunderstood sometimes Mysterious woman send your *** ;). Please don't ask me to send you sexy pictures..the answer is No! this will not happen. Lets be friends first and see how that works out. Things I Don't like: Arrogance, provoke a argument, judge me by my looks, childish drama.My likes: Friendship , freedom, intimacy, intellectual interest, travel, patients, Justice. What I'm looking for is a man with strong character, good morals, he is outgoing, intelligent, confident in his life, funny , he's open-minded, independent, likes new experiences and very playful in the bedroom...Yes!! very playful :)) Something light and simulating if the weather is nice lets have a picnic and kick back laugh and save the world. ;))

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