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United States, North Carolina, Burlington

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I am a 44 year old mother of two girls ages 11 and 7. I am 5' 2", and ***ish) pounds with blonde curly hair and blue eyes. I'm a slightly shy, old-fashioned, simple, down to earth, easy going, no nonsense, do-it-yourself kind of gal. To start out, I'm looking for a man that can carry on a decent conversation. The mental connection is very important to me. I'm a talker (once I'm comfortable) so I prefer to be with someone that can hold up their end. I have many interests and I'm always open to learning something new to improve myself in any way I can. The more you know - the more you grow! Relationships are stronger and last much longer when they are friendship based. Friends with a sincere respect for one another as opposed to two people who's dating choices are based solely on physical attraction. I'm hoping to settle into something long term but if we can't be friends then nothing else will work out for us either. I was married for 11 years of a 13 year relationship and had a 6 year relationship soon after that one ended. I've been single for over 5 years. I am interested in meeting a patient, kind, decent, and trustworthy person with morals and integrity. I have my kids ***. They have no paternal contact whatsoever so I don't get much time away from them but I'm still not willing to leave them with a sitter for just anybody. There has to be some sort of CONNECTION, ATTRACTION, or COMPATIBILITY for me to meet anyone face to face. I do know what I'm NOT looking for. I'm okay with being single for as long as it takes but the boredom, monotony, and loneliness does tend to overwhelm me at times. Unfortunately, this is my only way of meeting people for now since I don't get out much and I'm not into the bar/night club scene. I'm not a big drinker and dislike crowds and loud noise.Due to personal preference and the fact that I'm not a heavy person myself, I am only attracted to men that have an average, athletic, or thin build. Attraction is a natural thing that we cannot change or control to be politically correct. I'm very sorry if this offends anyone. There are things about me that others may not find attractive as well but I do, at least, try to take care of my body the best I can and prefer a man that does the same. I expect no more of others than I expect of myself. I think that is fair. So if you do not at least try follow a healthy lifestyle I probably will not be interested.Everyone has their own ideals and admire different qualities in different people. Each person I meet brings out a different side of my personality. I can adjust myself to almost any level. None of us see ourselves in the same way as others see us. It takes the right person to bring out the REAL me. But you will form your own opinion regardless of what I type here. Soooo ... I'll just go ahead and lay it all out for you. ;)*I have Rheumatoid Arthritis. Had it since age 16 and YES .. it IS visible. I am honest and brave enough to put that out there for you to scrutinize. Everybody has a flaw of some sort but since mine just happens to be a noticeable part of my appearance, I feel that I should let it be known so that you can decide if it's something you can accept. I have had both knees replaced already (I walk fine), a forefoot reconstruction that left me with with a metal plate, screws, and fused toes. I also have some other visible arthritic damage here and there. I do eat healthy, take good care of myself, and truly believe that I'm in better shape than most women my age otherwise. I am NOT looking for somebody to feel sorry for me or take care of me. I take good care of myself and I never ask for help. I'm extremely stubborn and still have a sense of pride that overrides pain. ;) You'll either accept it or you won't. I also might as well mention that I had to give up driving due to the *** my knee replacements (at least temporarily). I don't want to kill anyone on the road (or the sidewalks :p). I had to leave my bank job to take care of some of my medical issues. I have been seeking work in an office type setting ever since but I am basically on medical/disability for now until a non-discriminatory person decides to hire me. If that spooks you .... well sorry. I'm just trying to stay mobile and do whatever needs to be done for myself as well as my kids. I've had 14 surgeries so far and will still need plenty more in the near future (next one in April ***. I make no excuses for myself, my abilities, or my disabilities ... I always do what I can. My life isn't easy but it does go on either way - with or without you. :)* Chemistry is always a factor and the written word can be interpreted any way the reader so chooses to interpret it. So a face to face meeting at some point will make or break it. Let's face it ... you just don't know a person until you've looked into their eyes, watched their body language, facial expressions, and see how they treat and/or react to others around them, as well as how others treat/react to them. It tells you so much more than simple e-mails and phone calls where words can be easily misunderstood.To be honest ... I feel uncomfortable eating on a first date. Too nervous. Maybe just appetizers and a drink at the very most. Grabbing a coffee for a quick meet and greet is good too. That way it stays comfortable in case there is no mutual spark.Please have a pic to share. You can see me ... let me see you too. :)

PERSONAL INFORMATION

  • Looking for

    man

  • Relationship

    Never married

  • Have kids

    No

  • Wants kids

    Someday

  • Ethnicity

    Caucasian

  • Faith

    Spiritual but not religious

  • Body type

    Slim

  • Height

    5'2"

  • Eye color

    Blue

  • Smoke

    No

  • Drink

    Yes, socially

INTERESTS

American Caribbean South American Spanish Crime History Horror
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